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by flickering_candle
Mon Dec 23, 2013 6:46 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I just "recently" got to what PM 2Ring posted here, and find it useful. I also find the phantom genitalia thing interesting, though I didn't save the page number of this thread on which it was mentioned. I thought my gender is "derp," but "latent" is much more usefully...
by flickering_candle
Tue Nov 05, 2013 6:32 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Would you all say that "gender nonconforming" and "gender variant" are the same things or does this mean different things? I understand both to be mean that the gender presentation and gender expression does not fit with what the society considers as typical or appropriate for p...
by flickering_candle
Tue Aug 27, 2013 2:26 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Thank you for the information/clarifications regarding the new law and the ones on name changes, waidh and Monika! I was kind of curious about that issue, since a number of people seeking name changes in the US have posted information on their difficulties in the past. From a few pages back: @PM2 Ri...
by flickering_candle
Mon Aug 26, 2013 5:25 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Anyway, just thought I'd drop this in here: Germany has passed a law allowing children to be registered as undetermined gender. Apparently anyone registered as such will be able to either choose their preferred gender at any point, or remain without it being specified. Apparently German law no long...
by flickering_candle
Tue Jul 09, 2013 1:27 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

*evangelical-to-liberal five* same! I have been noticing this recently. I used to think it's really neat that English has the words sex and gender, while German only has Geschlecht. But after seeing the miscommunications about gender, which means about four different things, and considering that se...
by flickering_candle
Sun Jul 07, 2013 4:23 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

This means the detention of trans and homeless people and refugees, a gross human rights violation, is ordered by the ruling parties who do not consider themselves to be on the far right. Which in some way is even worse, as even an improvement of the economy and a change of government is less likel...
by flickering_candle
Thu Jun 27, 2013 6:34 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Poll: Pill to eliminate the need for sleep
Replies: 80
Views: 29937

Re: Poll: Pill to eliminate the need for sleep

While I certainly would love the ability to remove the dependency on sleep, I wouldn't want to lose it entirely. Sleep provides benefits (as opposed to not sleeping providing penalties such as tiredness and hallucinations) that a simple removal of penalties would not replace. These include a host of...
by flickering_candle
Thu Jun 27, 2013 6:08 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

and yay no more doma The part of DOMA that was struck down was the provision that federally-granted marriage benefits do not apply to same-sex marriages. However, the provision that states not permitting same-sex marriages do not need to recognize ones performed in other states still stands for the...
by flickering_candle
Sat Mar 16, 2013 1:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

On a different topic, I recently finished reading The Changelings: A Classical Japanese Court Tale , which is a 1983 translation (only one published in English, as far as I could tell) of a 12th century piece of Japanese literature that centers around a pair of siblings, brother and sister, who are ...
by flickering_candle
Thu Mar 14, 2013 2:06 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

AVEN is a pretty good site. <Echoes what poxic said> With regards to relationships... relationships can be tough. I am able to stand having sex occasionally, although less frequently than my (non-asexual) partners wanted it, and they certainly got a lot more out of the sex itself than I did-- for me...
by flickering_candle
Thu Feb 28, 2013 2:27 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

On the whole obtaining funding for procedures note, I noticed a story on The Guardian this morning about a trans man whose fraternity helped him raise money for his mastectomy. They even used correct pronouns throughout the article.
by flickering_candle
Thu Feb 07, 2013 2:06 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Been thinking a bunch about my identity over the last week or two. Gender is confusing , dude.. When I really began thinking about my own, I found writing about it to myself helped me to shape my thoughts, to put them in (semi) concrete ideas. I found it helped, but I like writing and reading (alot...
by flickering_candle
Wed Oct 24, 2012 1:16 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

*sigh* I had to go through a humongous political debate with friends as to why voting for Romney is HELLA BAD for LGBTQ people, and in the end, I had to explain to people that being an ally is a privilege, and not a right. Just because you say you're pro-LGBTQ rights does not mean you actually are....
by flickering_candle
Tue Oct 23, 2012 5:11 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Should I rely on the simple tropes? "woman in man's body", "man in a woman's body"? But most trans people don't seem to feel that this accurately describes them. On the other hand it could at least convey that there is such a thing as dysphoria and transitioning for most is not ...
by flickering_candle
Sat Oct 20, 2012 12:36 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

A few months ago some people in this thread were talking about how some of the mainstream comic books were introducing LGBT characters and plot-lines, and there were questions about any other traditional comic books that were headed that way. This morning I saw an article about them. It didn't reall...
by flickering_candle
Sat Sep 08, 2012 8:12 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I'm cosplaying at the anime convention this year. I'm going as Rose of Sharon Cassidy Ah, she is my favorite character in that game! Also, on self-image: I used to view myself as ugly, for quite a few years. People would occasionally comment favorably on my appearance, but I always shrugged them of...
by flickering_candle
Sun Aug 19, 2012 8:32 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

In semi-related news, I discovered the latest issue of Batman (thanks reddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/gaymers/comments/xytig/the_crime_too_many_gays_have_faced_bullying_by/ ). I normally don't read too many comics besides a few webcomics like xkcd, but I really loved this one. Batman tackles homoph...
by flickering_candle
Tue Aug 14, 2012 2:04 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Sleep-time holodeck experiences
Replies: 3340
Views: 645379

Re: What were your dreams last night?

I was reading The Sign of Four (a Sherlock Holmes book) yesterday before going to bed. It has a character that lost his leg to a crocodile while swimming in a river in India. Sure enough, last night during my dreams myself and two others were doing something that involved swimming in rivers. There w...
by flickering_candle
Sun Jul 15, 2012 3:48 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Sleep-time holodeck experiences
Replies: 3340
Views: 645379

Re: What were your dreams last night?

I dreamed I went through a long, busy day at work, and when I got home I was so tired I went to bed to take a nap. I had just lay down, completely exhausted, when I woke up. It was a few minutes before my alarm was set to wake me up for work . :(
by flickering_candle
Tue Jul 10, 2012 2:57 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

If you're going to do cognitive science you should probably do it at the graduate level anyway, and (although I'm not absolutely certain of this) I'm pretty sure you can get into grad school for a degree program unrelated to your undergrad degree without too much difficulty. This is largely true, a...
by flickering_candle
Sun Jul 01, 2012 5:29 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Becani wrote:So I made a new account, since I was sick of my old handle. reminding me of when I was young and stupid. Now I can feel comfy posting again.

I bet you can figure out who I am. :P


Glad you'll be posting again, missed hearing from you. :D
by flickering_candle
Fri Jun 22, 2012 5:35 am UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" - Anne-Marie Slaughter
Replies: 80
Views: 11846

Re: "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" - Anne-Marie Slaught

agree with you that a split exists like that, but I don't think it's socialization. My impression is that more men than women are able to stop thinking about their kids if they need to- and so more of them can work 80 hour weeks away from home without slowly going insane. i am not sure it is entire...
by flickering_candle
Tue Jun 19, 2012 4:08 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Not mentioned in that article, but to me it made a lot of sense that a) even then nobody would be sentenced to death for asking philosophical questions and b) it makes a lot more sense that a character in a philosophical writing would consume the poison even though he is able to flee than for a rea...
by flickering_candle
Thu Jun 07, 2012 6:59 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

But what we really got down to is quite serious. It is not that we can’t laugh at and with each other. It is not a question of oversensitivity. The problem is that today, as I write this, young men and women whose behaviors, choices or attitudes are not deemed “man enough” or “normal” are being sub...
by flickering_candle
Wed May 23, 2012 4:40 am UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: Quebec Student Protests
Replies: 46
Views: 7786

Re: Quebec Student Protests

In my public policy & economics course, there was a chapter on funding of education, divided into primary and post-secondary parts. With regards to post secondary education, the conclusion was that primarily private funding (ie, higher tuition rather than state subsidies directly to schools) was...
by flickering_candle
Thu Apr 19, 2012 5:15 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I had an interesting conversation with a coworker the other night. He came in wearing a bright pink shirt whose collar was peeking out from under a khaki-colored crew neck shirt he was wearing over it. I complimented him on the shirt, and later that night we had an extended conversation about (as ma...
by flickering_candle
Fri Apr 06, 2012 7:31 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Does anyone know any books that deal with trans stuff? I read Luna and Parrotfish, which were almost the only books I could find, and I would absolutely love some more. It might be hard for me to find a book dealing with that stuff because my criteria is hard to satisfy. My favorite genre is sci/fi...
by flickering_candle
Wed Apr 04, 2012 11:12 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Living alone: anecdotes and such
Replies: 69
Views: 12615

Re: Living alone: anecdotes and such

I don't know, if anything I'd say introverts prefer to live with people that they feel comfortable with, whereas an extrovert would be more than happy to live on their own because they can go out and make new friends easier. Even introverts like human interaction, but an introvert living on their o...
by flickering_candle
Mon Apr 02, 2012 3:52 am UTC
Forum: Science
Topic: Most geeky thing you've done recently.
Replies: 133
Views: 45667

Re: Most geeky thing you've done recently.

On moving to a new apartment, and knowing the bedroom was noticably smaller than where I had been I made a scale floorplan on my computer with (scaled) images for the furniture to a)make sure everything I wanted in the bedroom could fit and b) find an aesthetically pleasing arrangement with a minimu...
by flickering_candle
Sun Apr 01, 2012 10:24 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Living alone: anecdotes and such
Replies: 69
Views: 12615

Re: Living alone: anecdotes and such

I find living alone to be far preferable to living with others. I actually noticed the biggest difference when I was house-sitting my grandparent's house while it was waiting to be sold (when I was between apartments, and they had moved into a retirement community), rather than when in my own apartm...
by flickering_candle
Mon Mar 19, 2012 7:07 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8211
Views: 1237401

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I've been having pretty weird feelings about sex lately. I don't mind watching porn or whatnot, it's just when I think about sexytimes with an actual person I like, I feel really gross about it. I mean, I don't really mind sex, I guess, but I feel like it just complicates stuff or isn't as great as...
by flickering_candle
Wed Dec 14, 2011 5:56 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd sightings in your hometown (and other places)
Replies: 384
Views: 110428

Re: xkcd sightings in your hometown (and other places)

An XKCD reference to comic 149 was in the Penny Arcade comic today.
by flickering_candle
Fri Nov 18, 2011 5:28 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: When did you last customize your OS sounds?
Replies: 21
Views: 2151

Re: When did you last customize your OS sounds?

I always turn off the sounds Windows makes on startup/login and logoff/shutdown. Beyond that, though, I think the last time I customized sounds for my OS was back in high school.
by flickering_candle
Mon Nov 07, 2011 4:23 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Myers-Briggs Psychological Testing
Replies: 270
Views: 105514

Re: Myers-Briggs Psychological Testing

I am an ISTJ, but recently I have been testing as an INTJ, which is odd, because the mindsets are supposed to be totally opposite. . When I was in high school I tested as ISTJ, but when taking a psychology of personality course in my last year of undergrad I tested as INTJ. According to the person ...
by flickering_candle
Mon Sep 26, 2011 12:34 pm UTC
Forum: Language/Linguistics
Topic: Think Before Naming Your Child
Replies: 1622
Views: 311196

Re: Think Before Naming Your Child

A few years ago one of my coworkers had the compound last name of Elcock-Holder. Understandably, on his name tag he shortened it to Elcock.
by flickering_candle
Fri Sep 23, 2011 3:33 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Apocalypse shopping
Replies: 82
Views: 9102

Re: Apocalypse shopping

What most surprised me about the suggestions listed was a lack of simple mechanical fasteners. Basic carpentry supplies (hammer/nails, hand drill/screws/screwdriver) are kind of included in the tools some people mentioned, but other things like rope, strong synthetic strings and (cliche because it i...
by flickering_candle
Tue Sep 20, 2011 7:56 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Sleep-time holodeck experiences
Replies: 3340
Views: 645379

Re: What were your dreams last night?

The only part of my dream that I remembered when I woke was that Belial (my mental image of him loosely based on his avatar, since I don't know him IRL) was asking me where I work and what I do. It was kind of creepy. Guess I shouldn't have been browsing the fora just before going to sleep.
by flickering_candle
Sun Sep 11, 2011 9:12 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Cats: Indoors or Out
Replies: 72
Views: 7298

Re: Cats: Indoors or Out

My cats (all spayed) are outdoor cats, except for the one I took in from my grandparents when they were no longer able to take care of her (declawed and always an indoor only cat). The two outdoor cats are often eager to go outside, even in the rain (which they seem to not mind) and the snow (which ...

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