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by Virtual_Aardvark
Wed Dec 10, 2014 11:31 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

So I'm wondering where the short ladies (like 5ft and under) here get their lingerie? I work in the sex industry and need to have a good selection of sexy things to wear. I've done okay on bras and panties but finding garter belts, corsets and thigh highs has been hell. What do?
by Virtual_Aardvark
Fri Oct 03, 2014 11:28 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Post your boat race.
Replies: 20908
Views: 2712818

Re: Post your boat race.

Thank you! I'll try to post more under spoiler tags! (Nothing new. But still lady in sexy clothes looking alluring...) I usually close my eyes for a bit in photo shoots. I get a much better picture if I pop them open right as the flash goes off so that I don't squint or blink. Also I usually wear gl...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Tue Sep 30, 2014 8:40 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

It's generally suggested that you take some advil or tylenol about an hour before the appointment. It's uncomfortable and painful but won't necessarily result in horrible cramps. Some people experience minor pain, some people it's really intense. I would say take the day off work or school and snugg...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Sep 25, 2014 10:50 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Post your boat race.
Replies: 20908
Views: 2712818

Re: Post your boat race.

I got some professional photos done and I'm way too stoked not to share. Here's the SFW one!
by Virtual_Aardvark
Sun Apr 13, 2014 1:42 am UTC
Forum: Language/Linguistics
Topic: Parlons Français ! [French practice]
Replies: 616
Views: 199282

Re: Parlons Français ! [French practice]

Salut! Je parle Francais toute ma vie, mais je suis Americaine et je n'ai pas beaucoup de raison pour parler Francais. Je suis sure que ma grammaire doit etre terrible et je n'ai aucune sense d'argot et de moderne parlance. Je cherce pour des recommendations de livres, filmes et tele moderne pour ap...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Apr 10, 2014 6:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Question: I have a lot of tattoos so I wear sunscreen pretty much every day. Thing is I *hate* that weird tacky sunscreen smell. Does anyone know of an SPF lotion that doesn't smell all gross? I can't do strong artificial scents either.
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Aug 22, 2013 1:42 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Does anyone here get cramps/lower back pain when they're not on their periods? I'm having a lot of both and I'm not due to start for another week or two. I have however been under buckets of stress.

Ideas?
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Mar 14, 2013 8:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I hope I'm not butting in here. So, I'm a sexual person who's dated asexy people in the past. One of my exes and I never had sex. I think the furthest we got was tops off and hands never below the waist. very much enjoyed my time with them because I get a lot out of hand-holding, coffee trips, and g...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Feb 04, 2013 5:50 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Congrats Tash! Has anyone here been to TransMission? My roommate and some friends are going and I'm considering joining them. I've only been to a couple of play parties and they didn't end super well. That was mostly a failure on my part to assert boundaries which wouldn't be a problem this time. I ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Fri Jan 25, 2013 4:40 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

21. I had only nitrous for mine and was maybe a little traumatized. As in I have new triggers around teeth and mouth things. I also have an anxiety disorder and really disliked the surgeon to the point I didn't want him touching me, and had two panic attacks so it was possibly an okay experience tha...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Jan 21, 2013 12:11 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Does anyone know some affordable US lingerie brands? A lot of companies don't carry my bra size (32C) so Vicky's Secret is right out. I'd like to do something for my lovers, all of whom are pretty into my femmeiness. And valentine's is coming up.
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Jan 17, 2013 7:38 am UTC
Forum: Movies and TV Shows
Topic: Trigger Warnings: The Directory (Now Transmedium!)
Replies: 128
Views: 72504

Re: Trigger Warnings: The Directory (Now Transmedium!)

So a friend of mine is working on an interactive database of triggers for movies so I linked them to this thread. Posting to get this back on the first page. Also adding a rape trigger for Heathers as well as *maayyybee* suicide. And how has Girl, interrupted not been mentioned yet? Triggers for sui...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Dec 13, 2012 12:33 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

They often use photoshop to make cleave stand out and make the breasts rounder. Combined with the actual location and shape of the torso they often look a little ...off.

And I would totes wear a thong that says RESPECT.
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Nov 29, 2012 9:30 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

@Natasha: Spoil'd for long and rambly: I totally understand (not the specifics obvs.) You *need* to talk with someone but it's so often that you feel you're putting an unfair burden on people. And then what if they start to only talk to you out of obligation or get really sick of you...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Nov 19, 2012 10:35 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

@grumpycat: I can't speak to the first part because I'm not trans*. But a lot of community health/LGBTQ health facilities have counseling. I believe Planned Parenthood in some states can refer you to free counselors or has them on staff and depending on where you are there should be Tran* inclusive ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:57 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Another good rule of thumb is have the bottom layer be longer on bottom than the top. At places like Target you can get a whole pile of "long and lean" tanks for cheap in lots of colors. I'm very fond of camis with lace bottom parts going as a base layer. And a very bright cami with some r...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Nov 19, 2012 6:50 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: In other news... (humorous news items)
Replies: 14993
Views: 2384911

Re: In other news... (humorous news items, etc)

I'll admit to rarely seeing nude people sitting down without something to cover the chair. If only because it's cold and foggy here and concrete tends to stay damp for a good while. It's transit that can be a real issue. Like please, penises out of my face/off my person. In reality most of the nude ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Nov 19, 2012 4:55 am UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: In other news... (humorous news items)
Replies: 14993
Views: 2384911

Re: In other news... (humorous news items, etc)

Out of experience I'd not mind having public transit be no nudity. Like at least a wear a towel. Muni and BART get pretty crowded and I have no desire to be squished up against someone's junk (especially if I'm sitting down and they're standing up). I couldn't care less about people walking around i...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Oct 22, 2012 6:10 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Trans* and genderqueer friends of mine just tick all that apply. Or cross out the options and write their own. It's either a holdover from certain medical professions where trans* status may actually be important (Like if someone has a uterus that's something doctors should know in certain situation...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Sat Sep 29, 2012 8:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

If you are near a planned parenthood there's also a reasonable chance they'll give you b.c. for free.
by Virtual_Aardvark
Fri Sep 28, 2012 5:56 am UTC
Forum: XKCD Meetups
Topic: Bay Area Meetups
Replies: 92
Views: 90359

Re: Bay Area Meetups

Unfortunately can't do the 6th. Any other options?
by Virtual_Aardvark
Sat Sep 22, 2012 1:36 am UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Some Guy Thinks Some Stuff About Politics
Replies: 88
Views: 15599

Re: The Last Honest Liberal

I keep hearing from people how abortion and birth control (for example) is a social issue. But for a 21 year old, single, freelancer my ability to not have babies is pretty fucking economic. When queer people have disproportionately low access to housing and healthcare, equal rights starts to look e...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Sep 17, 2012 6:25 pm UTC
Forum: XKCD Meetups
Topic: Bay Area Meetups
Replies: 92
Views: 90359

Re: Bay Area Meetups

I am so down for an October meetup.
by Virtual_Aardvark
Fri Sep 14, 2012 1:31 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Childfree
Replies: 142
Views: 113194

Re: Childfree

I plan on getting sterilized as soon as I can without a hassle. By all accounts doing so when my age (21) is more trouble than it's worth. Though I've gone back and forth on adoption/fostering I can't remember *ever* wanting to pass on my genetic material. It seems unnecessary at best, and irrespons...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Fri Sep 14, 2012 1:12 am UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 102685

Re: Radical Feminism

I was mistaken then. I was thinking I was wrong while reading Enuja's posts but radfem=transphobia must have gotten caught in my brain at some point.

Apologies. Carry on!
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Sep 13, 2012 10:11 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 102685

Re: Radical Feminism

Honestly I associate rad fem with second wave "blame the patriarchy", lesbian separatist type of feminism. Also very much with transphobia and vilification of women who make choices that "play into the patriarchy" such as housewifery, shaving legs/wearing makeup, prostitution or ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Sep 13, 2012 9:03 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 102685

Re: Radical Feminism

Another tactic is to preserve certain aspects of "femininity", "masculinity", "androgeny" etc; but to untether them from sex and gender. This is what people mean when they use the word "femme". I'm a queer cis woman who identifies as femme. I have short hair, ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Wed Sep 12, 2012 5:34 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Another one that I've heard is to avoid tight, synthetic underwear if possible. By this I don't mean only boxer shorts are acceptable, but wearing comfortable bikini or boyshort type panties is a good idea. Thongs are to be avoided.

Aside from that eat more yogurt I guess?
by Virtual_Aardvark
Tue Sep 11, 2012 9:24 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: The Art Renewal Centre
Replies: 44
Views: 8182

Re: The Art Renewal Centre

All this talk of promoting schools and consumption of art, and almost no mention of the artists! We're a long way from the french Academie. People tend to create what they want. In school there was a fairly even divide between abstract/contemporary artists, illustrators and traditional (realist, tec...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Wed Sep 05, 2012 5:12 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

I have an IUD (paragard) and have gone several periods with my diva cup and no problems. At the insertion I asked the clinician specifically and she says she's never heard of it doing anything to the device. From previous posts it sounds like you've never had IUD related problems (from the sound of ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Tue Aug 28, 2012 8:27 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 26613

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

So can we make perfectly clear that the problem is not "saying something offensive," it's "saying something that perpetuates negative stereotypes or ideas about people?" Quoted the important bit. The comic on it's own isn't going to lead to mass shunning of people with herpes. B...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Sun Aug 26, 2012 6:20 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

@[redacted]: I actually gasped when I opened the pic. You/the dress are one of the cutest things I've seen in a while. Similar note: here's what I wore to Pride (yes a tad late I know) http://sphotos-a.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/s720x720/315411_10150995211858461_1951363556_n.jpg
by Virtual_Aardvark
Sun Aug 19, 2012 11:29 pm UTC
Forum: Books
Topic: Recommend a Translation
Replies: 0
Views: 3281

Recommend a Translation

Reading authors in other languages is a tricky thing. You never know if your translation is actually capturing the real feel and meaning of what the author intended. So this is a thread to suggest and request translations for various authors and works. I'll start with the classics Seamus Heany's tra...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Fri Aug 17, 2012 10:39 pm UTC
Forum: XKCD Meetups
Topic: Bay Area Meetups
Replies: 92
Views: 90359

Re: Bay Area Meetups

This may be a long shot, but here goes: My roommate's kicking me out of my apartment (long story) and I need a place to live in the east bay very soon. So if you or anyone you know needs a roomie or is vacating a decent place to live I'd appreciate the tip. I'm queer and poly so it's hard sometimes ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Mon Jul 30, 2012 4:45 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Post your boat race.
Replies: 20908
Views: 2712818

Re: Postify your facerity

How about "I really like your hair. It/you are super pretty. And I respect you all the more for not only wearing thick, curly, big hair; but for doing it in Florida weather."
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Jul 26, 2012 7:07 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Question: I got the copper coil inserted on monday and I'm still cramping and bleeding. The cramps are extremely mild and the flow stays between light and spotting. It's enough that it's annoying and the clinician told me that since there's no hormones the IUD wouldn't start Shark Week and that the ...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Jul 12, 2012 11:14 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

@ Jessica. This year I went to only Pride as in the parade (I capitalize Pride to denote the festival). I had a migraine on the day of the Trans* march but really was sad to miss it. @Natraj: No worries. A lot of us have trouble figuring this shit out. It took me a long time to understand that refus...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Jul 12, 2012 8:14 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Yeah. Big banks and stuff have always been at Pride. But as a kid that was my introduction to the fat positive, kink positive, poly/sex positive stuff. It blew my little mind open and was my first exposure to queer bodies in a shameless way. It' s that thing where it was super cool when the Dyk...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Thu Jul 12, 2012 7:47 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8231
Views: 1317320

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

So I've been going back and forth on whether to post this here for a while. If mods feel it's the wrong place then please move it of course. Spoiler'd for long and rambly. A few weeks ago was SF Pride. I haven't been for a few years and was super stoked because gay people and stuff. I was pretty...
by Virtual_Aardvark
Tue Jul 03, 2012 3:35 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27387
Views: 3137847

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

It is generally a compliment along the lines of well built or fit. Stacked is another. These reflect cultures with different standards of beauty that favor muscled, fat or other non-normative body types (or that favor large asses at the least). See "gordita" as a term of affection. I've be...

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