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by Enuja
Sun Aug 26, 2012 2:44 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28957

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

Because the word "clean" was not the point or the message of the comic, Randall does not get the excuse that he was just accurately portraying reality. There are tons of other funny ways (including ways to analogize it to STIs) to make the point that it's the results of the clinical tests,...
by Enuja
Thu Aug 23, 2012 10:26 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28957

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

I was monogamous when I tested positive for HPV (as part of a normal PAP smear, but my next PAP was abnormal, and the end of my cervix was eventually removed, resulting in the regrowth of a healthy cervix), and the positive test itself did not effect my sexual behavior in any way. At the time, my si...
by Enuja
Wed Aug 22, 2012 10:43 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28957

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

At one point, I had a positive HPV test with a PAP smear. At the time, I was monogamous (although I had been polyamorous before, and am polyamorous now). I don't know who I got the HPV from , and I don't know whether my partner had it or not . I assume he did, and gave it to me, but it's just an as...
by Enuja
Wed Aug 22, 2012 2:01 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28957

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

At one point, I had a positive HPV test with a PAP smear. At the time, I was monogamous (although I had been polyamorous before, and am polyamorous now). I don't know who I got the HPV from, and I don't know whether my partner had it or not. I assume he did, and gave it to me, but it's just an assum...
by Enuja
Mon Aug 06, 2012 10:22 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 109372

Re: Radical Feminism

I consider myself a radical feminist because I think that gender is socially constructed, and that this social construction is a very basic, integral, and anti-woman part of our social and mental fabric, and also because I personally get more excited about and interested in gender than in other form...
by Enuja
Sat Aug 04, 2012 4:08 am UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 109372

Re: Radical Feminism

I am both a radical feminist and a sexually submissive female with a sexually dominant male partner. I contain multitudes. I think above and beyond sex drive the argument is that when women do want sexual pleasure, most of them will get more of it from oral sex, clitoral stimulation, and digital pen...
by Enuja
Thu Jul 26, 2012 2:03 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Consciousness of the world around me
Replies: 9
Views: 2995

Re: Consciousness of the world around me

You say you're moving out of your house soon: are you also leaving the city or region, or will you be nearby? If you'll be nearby, you should schedule to go to local "nature" places with members of your family, and you should ask "What's that?" when you see something that interes...
by Enuja
Tue Jul 24, 2012 4:50 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: I want to join a Dojo.
Replies: 12
Views: 2975

Re: I want to join a Dojo.

I just noticed that you are the one who also started the "How to get a job?" thread here in general recently. There is some hand-to-hand combat training in the military, and depending on where you end up, you could actually get quite a lot of very good physical training. There are also edu...
by Enuja
Tue Jul 24, 2012 3:46 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: I want to join a Dojo.
Replies: 12
Views: 2975

Re: I want to join a Dojo.

How have you gotten into martial arts, and how are you training, if you don't have a dojo? Your OP seems to be referencing fictional dojos, as featured in many martial arts films, that turn people into martial arts magicians with extreme hardship. That's fiction. You can certainly do difficult train...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 18, 2012 3:38 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1475532

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I don't think you've messed up coming out, at all! Go ahead and tell the people you've told that you're bisexual that you consider yourself out, and don't mind them mentioning it, and do as Monika said: just act "out." Stop censoring yourself, and you've done an excellent job of outing you...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 12, 2012 3:17 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

You might consider abstaining for a few weeks. It goes get rid of the annoyance of birth control.
by Enuja
Fri Jun 08, 2012 6:14 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

I hate to be caught up on semantics, but I think objectification itself is the removal of agency of the "subject" being objectified. Think about sentence structure, the subject is what does something and the object is having something done TO them. Which is honestly the only problem I hav...
by Enuja
Thu Jun 07, 2012 1:01 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

Personally, I love dressing up! And I love looking at guys in skirts. For me, it's the gender inequality of expectations and allowed clothing, not the act of being fancy, that's a problem. But I know plenty of women and men who hate dressing up, period. I've got a party this weekend, that I will dre...
by Enuja
Thu Jun 07, 2012 12:31 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

Panonadin, it's fine for you to enjoy looking at people who are dressed up, including women in dresses. In the vast majority of cases, it's not just OK but actively appreciated and kind for you to compliment someone who is dressed up. It's also fine for me to not enjoy being complimented for bowing ...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 06, 2012 10:50 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

On the issue of whether a compliment on dressing up is social pressure to make women look "nice" or the good human relationships strategy of complimenting changes people chose to make: context is extremely important. We live in a society where women are strongly pressured to be ornamental....
by Enuja
Tue Jun 05, 2012 10:31 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

I know that a lot of feminists think that the lesson about objectification is that no-one should be objectified, but I am a feminist who strongly disagrees. Instead, we should respect the agency of the people we objectify, and never allow the social category a person is in to prevent them from doing...
by Enuja
Tue May 29, 2012 7:42 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

Good for you! But you're expecting people not to make a judgement about you based on your personal habits, which is unrealistic. In the blue corner, we have the rest of the world, who do make this effort you currently don't feel like doing, and in the red, we have Enuja, who has decided not to. Enu...
by Enuja
Tue May 29, 2012 5:32 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

I think the main thing that baffles me in particular about the shaved legs thing is that men do not have to shave their legs. It's not universal - and the hair on men's and women's legs are usually pretty much identical (unlike, say hair on the face) Thats not actually true. Womens body hair tends ...
by Enuja
Tue May 29, 2012 1:07 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

On the subject of respect ... It is very common in our culture for people to say "You need to respect me!" and "That's disrespectful behavior." From my perspective, almost all of these discussions of respect are mislabeled. For the most part, people are requesting courteous behav...
by Enuja
Mon May 28, 2012 2:44 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Business Casual/Other dress codes
Replies: 25
Views: 14293

Re: Business Casual/Other dress codes

Here's the full post I put in the woman thread after the jury duty. I think I explain myself quite well there: here I was just referencing that impression. Noc doesn't have the complete story: it was not just the uniformity of dress, but the sexualization of one subset (female lawyers in front of j...
by Enuja
Fri May 25, 2012 9:24 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Business Casual/Other dress codes
Replies: 25
Views: 14293

Re: Business Casual/Other dress codes

I did link to the page, as good advice, didn't I? I complained about it, yes, but because I, personally, always like to highlight gender assumptions and expectations that people have. This doesn't have anything to do with this forum in particular: I do the same thing in person, and whenever I write,...
by Enuja
Fri May 25, 2012 2:20 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Business Casual/Other dress codes
Replies: 25
Views: 14293

Re: Business Casual/Other dress codes

I've seen some advice about business clothing, especially for formal business interviews, for women to wear skirts instead of pants. But that advice always looks seriously out of date: in any business situation I can imagine, a fantastic suit with dress trousers is as good as a skirt.* Maybe the wom...
by Enuja
Fri May 25, 2012 1:48 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Business Casual/Other dress codes
Replies: 25
Views: 14293

Re: Business Casual/Other dress codes

Business casual is professional business clothing without requiring suit jackets and ties. Which is a really male-centric way to look at it, but that's the origin of the dress code, so that's the way it is. Because women's clothing doesn't really fit into this system, women usually have more leeway ...
by Enuja
Wed May 23, 2012 11:09 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: The radical idea that women are people
Replies: 3259
Views: 305900

Re: The radical idea that women are people

This conversation was actually months ago (November), koberulz necro'd the thread for a link, Ixtellor responded to the previous conversation about shaving (not surprising given that koberulz didn't say anything substantive about their link), and the shaving conversation spawned a bit more conversat...
by Enuja
Mon Apr 30, 2012 3:37 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Right now I work overnights at a large retailer, and most of the employees are female. They always put guys on the truck, taking the loose boxes out of the truck and putting them on the line, and usually have guys pull the heavy pallets on the truck. But the line is always majority female. They try ...
by Enuja
Thu Apr 26, 2012 9:25 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

I've heard that a lot of doctors won't fit you for an IUD if you're a virgin and if they do, it tends to be very painful and difficult if not impossible. Does anyone know if there's truth to that? If you've never been pregnant, your uterus is a bit less flexible, and therefore somewhat more likely ...
by Enuja
Thu Apr 26, 2012 1:16 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

PictureSarah, it's quite possible that male condoms are your best bet, and they can be an excellent birth control method. No, they aren't the most effective, but going from a 5% chance of no pregnancy in a year to a 82% with the "typical use" of condoms is a huge improvement. You've tried ...
by Enuja
Fri Apr 20, 2012 9:45 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Amie, commercially produced clothing fits and perfectly flatters only one person: the fit model, the person the clothes were designed for. You don't have a "strange" body: everyone has a different body, and clothing produced in set sizes will never fit most, or even a reasonably large perc...
by Enuja
Thu Apr 05, 2012 9:29 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

No matter how tall something is, I never go shin-first. Even getting out of a pool, I'll go knee first at worst, but the shape of the knee keeps it from sliding. With chairs, I go ass-first, even if I have to climb up a bit to get there, which is true for some stools.
by Enuja
Thu Apr 05, 2012 7:41 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

I don't use deodorant. Instead, I shower and bathe reasonably often. There is a coherent argument to me made for shaving one's armpits or using deodorant, at least in this society that generally dislikes natural body odor. I've been able to get away with doing neither (and I've got boyfriends who sa...
by Enuja
Thu Apr 05, 2012 2:42 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Since I'm posting, I have to add my own "WTF, pubes are just hair and look like many people's back or chest hair, most people's underarm hair, and a lot of people's head hair." I don't shave my legs, my underarms, or the dark hair between my breasts but right now I'm shaving my head about ...
by Enuja
Fri Mar 30, 2012 2:13 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Living alone: anecdotes and such
Replies: 69
Views: 13578

Re: Living alone: anecdotes and such

I hate, hate, hate living alone. I'm a social person, but also a homebody. I like to make a pleasant home life and spend a lot of time there, but I don't like being alone most of the time. I haven't had a non-SO, non-family roommate since college, which ended 9 years ago for me, and I miss it sooo m...
by Enuja
Wed Mar 28, 2012 12:12 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: National Parks
Replies: 19
Views: 4688

Re: National Parks

I wouldn't worry too much about crowds. Yes, the central area of Yosemite Valley is a congested mess, and there are so many people in the Zion Valley that cars are essentially not allowed and have been replaced with buses. However, it's pretty easy to get out of the press of people (I'm going to use...
by Enuja
Fri Mar 23, 2012 1:44 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Men's Fashion
Replies: 396
Views: 136477

Re: Men's Fashion

If you want anything to fit you perfectly and flatter your body, you must have it either make for you or altered. Some things (leather jackets, for example) are extremely difficult to alter. Yes, hemming pants or altering a T-shirt (yes, even T-shirts are altered to make movie stars look wonderful, ...
by Enuja
Wed Mar 14, 2012 3:33 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1475532

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

Hyphe, I'm not as gender-queer as you are, but I am a female-bodied person who loves to play with gender, and it sounds like we've got somewhat similar bodies. My advice: get a buzz cut and wear a strap-on designed for everyday wear. I shave my head, and at 2-4 weeks after shaving, I get "sir'd...
by Enuja
Tue Feb 21, 2012 10:07 pm UTC
Forum: Food
Topic: Tired of throwing away my lunch.
Replies: 17
Views: 5155

Re: Tired of throwing away my lunch.

And mayonnaise is widely availably in shelf-stable packets.

But if your new lunch box is working, you don't have to go the room temperature route.
by Enuja
Fri Feb 17, 2012 5:09 pm UTC
Forum: Food
Topic: Tired of throwing away my lunch.
Replies: 17
Views: 5155

Re: Tired of throwing away my lunch.

Toss the ice pack. If you're eating your lunch within 6 hours of packing it, the lunch meat isn't going to go bad. Just make your room temperature sandwich, and keep it at room temperature. Don't put mayo or mustard or butter on the bread, and pack the meat separately if you want to, but the ice pac...
by Enuja
Wed Feb 08, 2012 10:16 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

I've had problems with leaking if it doesn't fold open, or if I put in "too deep," which really just means with the cervix outside of the cup instead of inside. Because of this, I've developed the habit of feeling around the entire lip with my index finger, to make sure that the cup is the...
by Enuja
Tue Feb 07, 2012 3:49 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3485743

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

I have and love my cup! Here is the super-useful livejournal menstrual cups group , although I can never find the really useful pages complied over time by experienced folks without direct links or searches. What fold are you using? I use the punch-down, and it's perfect for me. Here's the fold post...
by Enuja
Fri Jan 20, 2012 4:49 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: New York, New York
Replies: 18
Views: 3892

Re: New York, New York

I live in Chicago (for the past 2.5 years, and I have done barely two days of sightseeing), have never heard of Bock's Ordered Books, and would meet by the Bean (Cloud Gate). The Bean is relatively new, but it was designed to be a tourist hot spot, has some places to sit, and is relatively easy to f...

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