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by Enuja
Fri Jul 03, 2009 7:24 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: How did people wake up before alarm clocks?
Replies: 49
Views: 6423

Re: How did people wake up before alarm clocks?

I think that your premise is flawed. I don't think that people lived alone AND had to get to work at a certain time before alarm clocks. That said, people can train themselves to wake up at the same time every day, and if you can't, you can pay someone who can to wake you up. Also, the loud "fa...
by Enuja
Fri Jul 03, 2009 5:06 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1497108

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQ Thread - Queer Support!

videogamesizzle, coming out to your uncles sounds like a great plan, but I'd also bring it up with your psychiatrist in a "I'd like to talk to someone about coming out and sexuality, I'm not ready to come out to my parents and I'm not sure who to talk to: any ideas?" kind of way. Your psyc...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 29, 2009 9:19 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

Bathtub or shower sex and sex on red/black/dark towels. Not relevant for immediate use, and I don't know about IUDs and endometriosis, but you can get IUDs without having a kid first. I know that Mirena's information booklet and website say "recommended for women who have had a child", but...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 29, 2009 9:04 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

freakwood, when I get off hormonal birth control pills, I tend to be more regular than usual for 3-4 months. So it's possible that you'll become irregular again. But, if you went on BC when you were fairly young, it could be that your body has simply settled into regular periods during the time peri...
by Enuja
Sat Jun 27, 2009 7:16 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1497108

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQ Thread - Queer Support!

Good luck on transitioning, Osha and Van! I honestly can't imagine how tough it is to transition, but I remember the joy of a post-op MtF friend of mine just after her surgery, and how much happier an FtM (planning on taking testosterone only) friend of mine is after his transition. I hope both of y...
by Enuja
Fri Jun 26, 2009 11:52 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Have You Ever Taken Drugs?
Replies: 287
Views: 35957

Re: Have You Ever Taken Drugs?

Oh, I believe that reality is real, despite the unintuitive and probabilistic nature of quantum mechanics. Personally, I'd expect that hallucinogens emphasize how chemical and biological perception and self are, not that reality isn't "real", but, as I've said, I've never taken any halluci...
by Enuja
Fri Jun 26, 2009 4:49 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Have You Ever Taken Drugs?
Replies: 287
Views: 35957

Re: Have You Ever Taken Drugs?

I checked the first option, but it bothers me that I did, because I'm all for legalization of drugs. But it appears to be the most true option. I don't smoke things, don't have any interest in addictive substances, and my behavior is often structured by legality, so I'll probably never consume an il...
by Enuja
Fri Jun 19, 2009 5:12 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Utility of Religion
Replies: 301
Views: 35731

Re: Utility of Religion

I am a goody goody two-shoes. Why? Because both my set of moral rules and my implementation of them was particularly strong. I was raised without religion but with very, very strong morals. Too strong, in my current opinion: my morals have changed and become more flexible since I was 5 (when I put c...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 16, 2009 11:01 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

The issue of whether senior partners told the women to wear very high heels, only women who like to wear very high heels are hired as lawyers, the court tells the women to wear very high heels, or it's simply "common knowledge" that wearing very high heels increases the percentage of the t...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 16, 2009 10:10 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

Podbaydoor, you have my best wishes and hopes. Dear Woman Thread: I was a prospective juror yesterday. It was an interesting experience and I was dismissed by the prosecution, but that's not what drove me crazy. The general dress of everyone there was absolutely batty and hugely gender-specific. All...
by Enuja
Thu Jun 11, 2009 9:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

On colored stockings/tights: I have, for the first time in years, stopped shaving my lower legs. And I've got dark hair from about three inches below my knees all of the way to my ankles. In some ways, I want to fight gendered views of beauty, but, on the other hand, I don't like to make waves. Most...
by Enuja
Thu Jun 11, 2009 7:43 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

Making the distinction between what lesbian separatists are trying to do and what effects you think that movement might have on society is very important, indeed. I'm sorry I misunderstood you: it's because of the "core argument" phrase, because, to me, in order for something to be a core ...
by Enuja
Thu Jun 11, 2009 7:28 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

luketheduke, (and anyone else) what evidence do you have that changing broader society is a core argument in favor of lesbian separatism?* Many discussions in this thread have been about how capable or incapable lesbian separatism is of changing society as a whole, and it's certainly an obvious argu...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 10, 2009 5:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

We are talking about current and historic lesbian separatist communities, and they are very, very small communities: 2-20 people, as described in the New York Times article. So, if we're talking about reporting rates, that means we are talking about reporting rates in very, very small communities, l...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 10, 2009 4:55 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Poll: Have you or someone you know said "Stupid uterus"?
Replies: 48
Views: 4786

Re: Poll: Have you or someone you know said "Stupid uterus"?

I have never said "stupid uterus" in part because because I like my uterus and I very rarely have any problems from it. I don't think I've even said "stupid knee" even though I hate my knee and it often hurts me. I have never said "stupid cervix" even though that partic...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 10, 2009 4:44 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

I think that many of you are completely misunderstanding the point of Lesbian Separatism. Lesbian separatists believe that the internalized cultural gender roles and patriarchy are the problem, and that it's not just a problem with men: it's a problem with women, too. Lesbian separatists want to get...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 10, 2009 12:05 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Strangers telling women to "smile"
Replies: 212
Views: 27469

Re: Strangers telling women to "smile"

Generally, I really prefer that people avoid talking to me if I'm not actively looking at them and smiling in the first place. I do remember one person who noticed me get madder and madder sitting in a coffee house (I thought I was being stood up by my now spouse for a first date, but we just didn't...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 09, 2009 5:27 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Strangers telling women to "smile"
Replies: 212
Views: 27469

Re: Strangers telling women to "smile"

I think that the strangers who have told me to smile have been older service workers (talking to me, a customer) and fellow customers and the like. I'm not sure if anyone has just said "smile" why walking by; it has happened instead when a conversation could happen, and it's one way to eit...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 09, 2009 3:43 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Do you look your age?
Replies: 65
Views: 5054

Re: Do you look your age?

I finally look my age, and I'm so happy about it. When I was about 25, I shaved my head. I went to the airport and an airport cop tried to hassle me for being to young to drive. I went to movie with my spouse, and the person behind the counter tried to charge me the 12-and-under child price for a mo...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 08, 2009 8:49 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

Ginger and Belial, libellule posted, back on page 2 this New York Times article about a long-running womyn's land, which includes facts such as there are "about 100 below-the-radar lesbian communities in North America" ""The communities, most in rural areas from Oregon to Florida...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 08, 2009 8:22 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Debate surrounding animal breeding (Split from F/R/T)
Replies: 83
Views: 5291

Re: Debate surrounding animal breeding (Split from F/R/T)

Well, Izawwlgood, if one thinks that humans shouldn't form animals to our own needs, then cats, dogs, cows, horses, goats, pigs, chickens and silk moths should all die out. We should instead see bobcats, coyotes, wolves, a variety of bovids, wild horses, mountain goats, wild hogs, wild birds and wil...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 08, 2009 6:54 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Debate surrounding animal breeding (Split from F/R/T)
Replies: 83
Views: 5291

Re: Debate surrounding animal breeding (Split from F/R/T)

On breeding animals: there is definitely cognitive dissonance around loving animals, appreciating their behavior and individuality, forming an emotional bond with that animal, and then finding and paying for a mate that will produce the most marketable offspring. I heard a story about a person who g...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 08, 2009 2:31 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

For you, as a man, saying that humans rape is functionally the same accusation towards you as saying that men rape. Wait, what? 'Humans' does not function as 'men,' not to men or anyone else. Both statements "humans rape" and "men rape" function to say "you rape" when ...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 08, 2009 1:24 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

why should the society be restricted in terms of sex rather than enlightenment if both genders are guilt of the perpetuation? This is where I feel the anti-man knee jerk reaction is. Kulantan, because the men are the ones with the privilege, whether they want it or not. Error of division. Mans are ...
by Enuja
Sat Jun 06, 2009 9:20 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

Antimony-120, I was with you until I got to your signature: "Generation Y, when you ladies first see me we'll add one to the next generation". I honestly can't imagine a reason for that signature other to imply that you are so sexy and masculine that any female, the moment she meets you, w...
by Enuja
Sat Jun 06, 2009 3:40 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

dbh2ppa, I personally agree that binary gender roles and, in fact, any expectations of social roles dependent on biological sex, is the real problem. The 1970s radicalesbians writing The Women-Identified Women agreed with you and I. However, the question becomes, how do we change this? Society as a ...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 03, 2009 11:42 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

When I was a teenager, my mother introduced me to training bras, sports bras, JC Penny's bras, and hand me down bras. And I wore a new one every day. I own something like two real bras and four sports bras right now, and I wear a bra something like once a month. I've decided that it doesn't make sen...
by Enuja
Wed Jun 03, 2009 12:36 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

The last time swimsuits came up, I said that I like one-pieces because when I swim my preferred activity is swimming laps, and (Speedo type) one-pieces are positively superb for the purpose. I also said that I hadn't been swimming lately because I stopped shaving my leg hair, and my upper thigh insi...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 02, 2009 6:29 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

And I'm confused as hell about the fact that, despite all this, I'm still meant to remain a sweet, loving, optimistic person who believes there really is such a thing as love. [/end angry feminist rant] Be angry. That's a bunch of obnoxious shit that you should be angry about. There is such a thing...
by Enuja
Tue Jun 02, 2009 4:15 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

It's so horrendous that to comment is superfluous. Douching of any kind of horrifying: I can't even imagine the evil of douching with lysol!
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 9:26 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: NHS will now pay for acupuncture
Replies: 173
Views: 13474

Re: NHS will now pay for acupuncture

I did read this Scientific American Skeptic article years ago, and here's Micheal Shermer's conclusion Finding that sham acupuncture is as effective as "real" acupuncture demonstrates that the Qi theory is full of holes. The effects of being poked by needles, however, cannot be ignored. Un...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 8:58 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: NHS will now pay for acupuncture
Replies: 173
Views: 13474

Re: NHS will now pay for acupuncture

From the WHO report I linked ... The pain section introduction includes this paragraph The effectiveness of acupuncture analgesia has already been established in controlled clinical studies. As mentioned previously, acupuncture analgesia works better than a placebo for most kinds of pain, and its ef...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:52 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

Random832, I address ideas I disagree with, no matter who they come from. Hyphe, the fact that women don't haggle as much (and that they don't apply to jobs they aren't qualified for, and they don't ask for raises as early and often) are all due, in great part, to our sexist society and the way wome...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:45 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: NHS will now pay for acupuncture
Replies: 173
Views: 13474

Re: NHS will now pay for acupuncture

There have been more than dozens of studies, and some have shown the efficacy of acupuncture. Testing "alternative" medicine and putting it them into the category of "medicine" when it works causes absolutely no net harm. See this WHO 2003 report for evidence, including the chart...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:18 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

First of all, Women-Identified-Women was written collectively by the Radicalesbians, so, when referring to the quote I took from it, "she" is not the correct pronoun. "They" wrote it together. Again, I strongly suggest that everyone interested in lesbian separatism read the entir...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 5:45 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: NHS will now pay for acupuncture
Replies: 173
Views: 13474

Re: NHS will now pay for acupuncture

When I had mono, I was taking Tylenol to get my fever down, but it got my fever down too far (and so it wasn't fighting the virus), and I was trying to be too active. My Western-Science nurse practitioner told me to cut back on the Tylenol, but to not let my fever get *too* high. I couldn't seem to ...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 5:09 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Lesbian Separatism
Replies: 190
Views: 13915

Re: Lesbian Separatism

If you're interested in lesbian feminism and lesbian separatism, one really interesting document is Woman-Identified-Women , which was put on both sides of a piece of paper and passed out during a Zap (creative radical protest) to protest the absence and silencing of lesbian perspectives at a women'...
by Enuja
Mon Jun 01, 2009 3:58 am UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Utility of Religion
Replies: 301
Views: 35731

Re: Utility of Religion

guenther, I agree with you that ... 1) An instantaneous, miraculous massive loss of faith in the US of A would seriously damage society. 2) Many individuals depend strongly on their faith to make them better people. 3) There are past and current cultures that use religion to support and transmit val...
by Enuja
Sat May 30, 2009 6:08 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

I know I'm married, but I don't know if marriage is a good idea for me or not. My spouse always considered himself weird, but started following social conventions for convenience long before he met me. We decided to get married after long talks about it. I had never planned on getting married, but I...
by Enuja
Fri May 29, 2009 8:43 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3536714

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread-The thread that gives (every month)

Don't assume that any future guy of yours would have a family that would resent you for not taking his last name! Since you would like to keep your name, it is extremely likely that anyone you would like would also want you to keep your name. My spouse's ex-wife took his name (and kept it for a long...

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