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by Enuja
Sun Feb 10, 2013 10:27 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Questions For The World
Replies: 2216
Views: 448623

Re: Questions For The World

Ask the person in question how they pronounce their last name.
by Enuja
Sun Jan 27, 2013 11:34 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Questions For The World
Replies: 2216
Views: 448623

Re: Questions For The World

In the US of A, it so deeply depends on context that the question is meaningless. In a big, social, well attended public event lecture, there are ALWAYS questions. Always. At academic conferences, there are usually questions, unless there is a serious problem with the number of people in the audienc...
by Enuja
Tue Jan 22, 2013 6:19 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3432293

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Sungura, so glad you're feeling a bit better! Off the self clothes fit no one (except the "fit model", and only in that one size) perfectly. I have been buying (slightly big for me) clothing at the thrift store and then customizing it to fit me. I even found a pair of camping pants in a th...
by Enuja
Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:39 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3432293

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

To Sungura: There isn't necessarily anything medically wrong with your body. When we eat a tiny number of calories, our bodies go into starvation mode and conserve. You've got a weight set point where you don't want one (curse fat cells for being a part of the endocrine system), ...
by Enuja
Mon Jan 14, 2013 4:00 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Car horns
Replies: 266
Views: 23836

Re: Car horns

I don't need a car, much less a car horn.

But I'm glad that, on the occasion that I rent a car, they have horns, and that all the cars have horns, which I do believe makes the streets safer for everyone.
by Enuja
Sat Jan 12, 2013 5:39 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Car horns
Replies: 266
Views: 23836

Re: Car horns

Davidy, maybe the problem here is that's been too long since you were a beginning driver. I tried to drive defensively from the very beginning, with the very good example of my father's driving. When I took road trips in college, I noticed that the traffic was much better behaved around me than arou...
by Enuja
Mon Dec 10, 2012 10:16 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Atlantic Article on Gender Roles and Children's Play
Replies: 13
Views: 4899

Re: Atlantic Article on Gender Roles and Children's Play

My skepticism about the Atlantic article linked in the OP is very high, because she strongly implies that the Top-Toy catalog is entirely gender neutral, or has children only in cross-gender roles. It doesn't. Even the picture used in the article has a girl with a doll! Why would anyone complain abo...
by Enuja
Wed Nov 28, 2012 3:57 pm UTC
Forum: News & Articles
Topic: Children stolen over political party membership.
Replies: 90
Views: 11141

Re: Children stolen over political party membership.

I don't see a difference. Infants by definition are cultureless. They have not developed a preference for kielbasa and pierogis over fish and chips. Nor have they developed a cultural identity surrounding sports, dialect, religion, or favorite superhero. But these particular foster children were no...
by Enuja
Wed Nov 21, 2012 2:44 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: sexism of anti gay marriage activism
Replies: 152
Views: 19766

Re: sexism of anti gay marriage activism

I have never denied or minimized how important gender is in our society. When I treat people like individuals, that includes respecting what they value, so, for example, talking about hair and clothes with women who like hair and clothes. But it also means that I can talk about hair and clothes with...
by Enuja
Tue Nov 20, 2012 9:17 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: sexism of anti gay marriage activism
Replies: 152
Views: 19766

Re: sexism of anti gay marriage activism

A stereotype is just a common belief or expectation about the characteristics of members of a group. Many (but not all) stereotypes are formed around a kernel of truth. But all stereotypes are proxy variables, and if you have access to the actual data you're interested in that's always better to use...
by Enuja
Sat Nov 17, 2012 3:41 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1447840

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

I was under the very distinct impression that when I signed up I chose a "sex," and was able to un-choose. But this was a few years ago (about 3 - I'm a late adopter), I can't recall precisely, and what you all are saying me makes me afraid to experiment. I most certainly want Facebook to ...
by Enuja
Sat Nov 17, 2012 12:54 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1447840

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

On Facebook, when I go to "About" and edit my "Basic Info" "I am" "Select Sex," which means no sex. Also, I have the "show my sex on my timeline" no checked, so you can both not show it and not have it.
by Enuja
Fri Nov 16, 2012 3:45 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: sexism of anti gay marriage activism
Replies: 152
Views: 19766

Re: sexism of anti gay marriage activism

To make this personal attack tangent (somewhat) relevant to the topic: Children who grow up in same gender schools can actually have extensive experience with kids of the other mainstream gender: be it mixed gender sports, or clubs, or daycare, or neighborhood play groups or whatever, just as childr...
by Enuja
Fri Nov 16, 2012 11:08 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Serious help needed. Don't know what decision to make.
Replies: 12
Views: 1933

Re: Serious help needed. Don't know what decision to make.

I know it's one more thing to squeeze into your schedule, but I suggest a visit with your college therapist. If you're going to continue working, you've got to find a way to get things done without stressing out about them, and a therapist should be very helpful for this type of very concrete task. ...
by Enuja
Thu Nov 15, 2012 2:53 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: sexism of anti gay marriage activism
Replies: 152
Views: 19766

Re: sexism of anti gay marriage activism

For anyone who is interested in what psychologists know about gender differences in psychology, and what that has to do with popular non-fiction and general cultural expectations and ideas about gender, Delusions of Gender: How Our Minds, Society, and Neurosexism Create Difference by Cordelia Fine, ...
by Enuja
Sun Nov 11, 2012 8:35 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1447840

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

My ambivalence on gender stems completely from the different ways people treat people of different genders. Even if one gender has a tendency to be more of one trait than the other, that only informs you of the likelihood of seeing that trait in a person of a particular gender vs the other, not whe...
by Enuja
Thu Nov 08, 2012 3:48 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: sexism of anti gay marriage activism
Replies: 152
Views: 19766

Re: sexism of anti gay marriage activism

Dont bother leady. Enuja wants to eliminate any conception of gender at all, theres no way at all that she'll see the positive effects of having gendered archetypes to aspire to. Yes, Im willing to accept that based on the definition you're using Enuja, that wanting isogendered role models for chil...
by Enuja
Thu Nov 08, 2012 1:04 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: sexism of anti gay marriage activism
Replies: 152
Views: 19766

Re: sexism of anti gay marriage activism

Defining "sexism" is extremely important for idobox's question. I think that most words do, and should, have complex, context dependent definitions, so I'm not complaining that anyone has used the word incorrectly. But the answer to this question deeply depends upon the definition of the w...
by Enuja
Wed Nov 07, 2012 11:04 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!
Replies: 8248
Views: 1447840

Re: [SAFESPACE] LGBTIQQA Thread - Queer Support!

It's really hard to make safe spaces work, when what makes different people safe is different. I've got a bisexual friend who feels deeply traumatized by the gay community (although it's getting better for him), and I remember, in this very thread, personally offending a non-cis, non-trans person wh...
by Enuja
Wed Oct 24, 2012 1:41 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.
Replies: 27389
Views: 3432293

Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Humor does not work for me at all. And I mean that in an almost literally and universal way. As my sister once said (and rightly quoted herself regularly afterward) "When I make a joke, I say something I mean in a serious tone of voice." My sense of humor is one thing I share with my siste...
by Enuja
Fri Oct 19, 2012 2:58 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Dealing With Boredom
Replies: 23
Views: 4879

Re: Dealing With Boredom

I wouldn't expect that learning to knit would improve the skill of concentration. My evidence that it's easier to concentrate on meandering lectures while knitting is the ease with I concentrated on a meandering lecture while knitting versus not knitting. An anecdote, but definitely worth investigat...
by Enuja
Tue Oct 16, 2012 6:00 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Dealing With Boredom
Replies: 23
Views: 4879

Re: Dealing With Boredom

Knitting is not a way to waste time during a meeting. Knitting is a strategy to continue to be mentally engaged in a meeting, and, as a bonus, to get something else done at the same time. In the aforementioned lecture class, I got more out of the lectures I knitted during, because my physical distra...
by Enuja
Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:50 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Dealing With Boredom
Replies: 23
Views: 4879

Re: Dealing With Boredom

Social norms can be manipulated by the community in question. Is doodling inappropriate? If not, there is no inherent reason that knitting is inappropriate. Maybe you should use wooden instead of metal needles to make the sound as quiet as writing with a pen, but if the point is to listen to other p...
by Enuja
Tue Oct 16, 2012 4:28 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: Dealing With Boredom
Replies: 23
Views: 4879

Re: Dealing With Boredom

For meetings, knit! You've got to make clear to everyone that it helps you pay attention, but it can work wonders. Although this from a person who likes repetitive physical tasks, so it might not help for you. For repetitive tasks that are both mental and physical (so you can't knit), listen to inst...
by Enuja
Wed Oct 10, 2012 10:36 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: What world shattering disasters worry you?
Replies: 61
Views: 9037

Re: What world shattering disasters worry you?

Jorpho, I think you're underestimating the emotional punch that existential terror can have. I remember being about 7 years old, lying in my bed, and thinking about the fact that the universe is infinite. The idea terrified me. I could not get to sleep, I could not calm down about it: I had to get o...
by Enuja
Sun Oct 07, 2012 1:33 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: What world shattering disasters worry you?
Replies: 61
Views: 9037

Re: What world shattering disasters worry you?

I chose Population Growth/Lack of Resources because I care about the other species on this planet, too, and they are the ones I'm most worried about. I should have chosen Global Warming as well, but I didn't see the "chose three" bit until I clicked. Silly me. Also, I don't see either of t...
by Enuja
Thu Sep 13, 2012 4:54 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 107843

Re: Radical Feminism

Setzer, I think this is on topic, because the idea of "destroying gender" is quite radical, and is important in some types of radical feminism. If you think this is off topic, we can move this discussion to another thread. In this post , I linked to the thread in which I explored this idea...
by Enuja
Wed Sep 12, 2012 4:27 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 107843

Re: Radical Feminism

In this post, I linked to the thread in which I explored this idea in much more detail. I'm happy to answer any of the questions you have, and that thread probably doesn't answer all of your questions, but it's a good place to start. For one thing, the answers will be different for different people.
by Enuja
Wed Sep 12, 2012 3:26 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 107843

Re: Radical Feminism

Here's the great Clifford Geertz quote in the short version "Common sense is ... what the mind filled with presuppositions ... concludes" and the long version "Common sense in not what the mind cleared of cant spontaneously apprehends; it is what the mind filled with presuppositions -...
by Enuja
Tue Sep 11, 2012 8:36 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Radical Feminism
Replies: 454
Views: 107843

Re: Radical Feminism

I don't think it's radical feminists who demand state power to advance their interests. Suffrage, legal remedies for rape and sexual harassment, equal pay for equal work: this is very mainstream feminist stuff. And it's all stuff that you'd be a sexist asshole for arguing against, but that's not rel...
by Enuja
Thu Sep 06, 2012 9:40 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Infant Circumcision
Replies: 1022
Views: 107019

Re: Infant Circumcision

Not quite. That 12% is not 12% of current HIV infections, it's a prediction that if the circumcision rate were to go down (to ~10%, from the current ~55%), and nothing else changed, then HIV infection rates would go up by 12%. Without a long instructional statistical tangent about incidence, prevale...
by Enuja
Thu Sep 06, 2012 2:19 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Infant Circumcision
Replies: 1022
Views: 107019

Re: Infant Circumcision

IF his statement is actually correct, then we should expect to see a 20% higher rate of infection in europe right? do we? i'm actually asking if we do, because i don't know. i, in fact, never said a thing about US HIV prevalance, or listed any numbers, or cited any of that stuff because i don't act...
by Enuja
Wed Sep 05, 2012 9:33 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Infant Circumcision
Replies: 1022
Views: 107019

Re: Infant Circumcision

That guy's not a dumbass. His part of the statement is (probably: I haven't done the research) right. Your part of the statement (his statement has got to be wrong, because US HIV prevalence is higher than European HIV prevalence) is the problem. He's using the HIV rate in Europe as a number to give...
by Enuja
Wed Sep 05, 2012 3:05 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Infant Circumcision
Replies: 1022
Views: 107019

Re: Infant Circumcision

To chose one place DSenette stated this question: the basic assumption: IF the us circumcision rate was the same as the circumcision rate in europe then the HIV infection rate in the US would increase by 20% so, to check that assumption you could either decrease the circumcision rate in the US. OR l...
by Enuja
Tue Sep 04, 2012 2:52 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Infant Circumcision
Replies: 1022
Views: 107019

Re: Infant Circumcision

I used to be anti-circumcision, but I am currently pro-circumcision, including being for infant circumcision, as long the parents are pro-cirumcison. I do not plan to breed or to make decisions for any minors, but if I did, while I would certainly do further research, I would probably circumcise &qu...
by Enuja
Mon Aug 27, 2012 8:13 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28647

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

I do expect responsible HIV positive people to disclose, but don't know how responsible new partners are. And no matter what anyone tells you or doesn't tell you, and how morally reprehensible their lack of disclosure or lie, it's stupid to do anything other than act like new partners are infected w...
by Enuja
Mon Aug 27, 2012 7:46 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28647

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

I figure that if you want to know, you"ll ask. Although I do usually get to know a new partner a bit before having sex with them, that doesn't include a detailed medical history. There are tons of things a partner might reject me for that I don't proactively mention: family history of mental il...
by Enuja
Mon Aug 27, 2012 2:46 pm UTC
Forum: Serious Business
Topic: Infant Circumcision
Replies: 1022
Views: 107019

Re: Infant Circumcision

Relevant news to this thread: the American Academy of Pediatricians have a new policy on infant circumcision today, saying that the medical benefits outweigh the medical risks. Here's the NPR story , the pdf of the very short policy statement , and the pdf of the technical report . Edited for spelli...
by Enuja
Mon Aug 27, 2012 1:02 pm UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28647

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

The number I reported (41,400) was the first average I saw on the wikipedia page, and it is actually an average for 1979-2001, based on complicated statistics due to uncertainty about what people are dying from, but it is a very different average than the CDC is currently standing behind. There are ...
by Enuja
Mon Aug 27, 2012 1:39 am UTC
Forum: General
Topic: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offensive
Replies: 206
Views: 28647

Re: xkcd.com/1096/ "Clinically Studied Ingredient" is offens

I've actually already said that I've reconisdered my use of the word clean. The only thing I oppose is the idea that the comic needs to be altered. I believe that only the OP, who hasn't been back in a long time now, actually thinks that the pre-existing comic should be altered. I think that the co...

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