Btw Do you guys think it's ethical to have a low-cost, zero frills wedding? I mean, it's a lot of money but then again you are supporting jobs in the wedding industry
Well, yeah, but by not buying pickled pigs' feet right now you are totally failing in your duty to support the pickled pigs' feet industry. I suppose I could've picked the wrong example, but somehow I expect you're not rushing to the store right now in a paroxysm of guilt. But your local pig farmers! You bastard.
Honestly, I have serious doubts about the existence of a moral imperative to financially support any industry, particularly out of wartime. I can see the backing small/local-business movement, what with all the conglomerates these days, but I think even that tends to be a matter of choosing where to source your needs, not artificially manufacturing new ones for the sake of the economy. Because fuck that.
This goes triple for the wedding industry, as well, given that it's been so ludicrously built up by so many cultural sources, most of them glomping on like leeches to people who are under familial and social pressure to throw a lavish shindig, or else you'll bring shame on your family and cousin Joe will hate your forever and what will you say to your kids when they ask for the 3D video?? If you look at any sort of wedding discussion these days, anything under like 50 people is "eloping" now and you might as well just personally flip your family the bird before flying off to Vegas to get hitched by Elvis and then change your names and live off the grid so that they can never find you again, no matter how many PIs they hire. It may come as a surprise given my framing of the issue, but I find this to be arrant bullshit.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to throw a sweet party with your wedding. I don't think it's wise to ruin your financial future for it, but that's not a given, and it's none of my business. But I don't think people who don't want all the bells and whistles should be pressured to go through with it anyway. I can see capitulating to shut your family up if they're annoying bastards that way, but "think of the economy!"? Jesus. Come on. No. Do what you god damn want.
Source: had super tiny wedding and only slightly less tiny reception, 10/10 would ruin a wedding planner's livelihood again