BattleMoose wrote:It is when the people you have been venting about gain access to years worth of venting directed at them. I can honestly and categorically tell you, its a bad bad thing. There is a serious empathy failing here. Look, and the stuff said about me, wasn't that bad and often there was some truth to it.
True story: I was invited onto a 'breakaway forum', once. An invitation and/or application-not-getting-vetoed process was needed to get there, from thei original public forum that spawned it. It was one of several breakaways, because of the huge popularity of the original forum attracting 'all kinds' and the moderation (difficult enough, to please all the people all the time, IMHO) was often seen to be lacking. I didn't have much problem myself, but didn't actually mind being a member of an exclusive club that would have someond like me asba member (unlike Marx, G) and it was a nice place, with even some of the management of the first place involved.
But then I'm me, and not you. I've been in many a forum, BBS, newsgroup, etc, and I've left none of them bcause of private disagreements. (Forgotten passwords, usually, after changing hardware or access points.)
Once joined I found extensive prior conversations and, amongst them, comments about main-forum happenings that included, effectively, "Hey, you'll never guess what <Soupspoon> said about <foo>... What an idiot!" The fact that I was
being an idiot (unknowledgable, at least) might have helped me accept that with good grace. But I didn't mind at all. They wouldn't have said that had I been a member already, but then maybe they would have explained/corrected my idiocy, instead.
How does this compare with the xkcd forums situation? Probably not that well. It's not secret, it isn't (SFAIK) vetoable upon application, its 'contiguous' to those who go the lengths to explore it1
and it is less
moderated than the breakaway moderators modded their breakaway forum. But as a rough guide, I think it works.1
I haven't yet. Not yet gotten around to joining in, and it seems wrong to leap in after this public 'announcement' likely draws in other non-members to apply. Let it settle down again first, I think, then wander in without fanfare. Then I'll see what's said about me. Not worth getting fussed about, I imagine. See that as a challenge if you will, but it's really just a fact.