I Am Raven wrote:Not so much of a confession, but I still think it belongs here:
I was seriously (no, seriously) in love with this super sweet (if you apply grammar to that correctly it should've been "superly sweet"), extremely pretty and infitively kind girl. But she didn't like me... Anywayz, after about 4 months I had this teensy little job with this teensy amount of money, but I met another girl there. And I totally (...) fell in love with her. Too!
So now I am in love with two (that's right I said "two) girls. ( I am 15. the first girl is 16 and the second one is 18, but frankly, I don't care.)
The thing is, I don't want to love two people, it's way to confusing
What should I do? Ban one of them from my life? Never talk to her again? I couldn't do that. What can I?
...thank you, this is probably the most cheering thing I've read recently. It's too easy in a commmunity this size to feel that you're not noticed by anyone, or worse that you're hated by all - to find that someone might look up to me or think that I give good advice gives me a warm feeling inside.I Am Raven wrote:(Deep deep deeeeeeeep confession: I hope SecondTalon, ThorFluffs or Cheese has something nice to say to me, because I like them exceptionally .)
On your main confession: If the first one doesn't like you, you're probably best trying to get over them (hard as that will sound (and is)). I tend to get far too obsessive about crushes, so if/when things don't happen the way I'd hoped, I spend several weeks trying to put that person out of my head, at least in the whole 'potential partner' way. Then give up - I fail at doing that, so can't really advise you on it, sorry.
But if the 'not liking' is not actually the opposite of 'liking', just its absence, you still have chances - talk to her, get to know her as a friend... then at least if you don't end up going out with her or anything, you'll have a new friend (maybe more, if you're introduced to her social circle). Just don't try and be sly about it, as that has a reeeally low success rate - just say 'hi' at a convenient point, and ask her a few questions.
The previous paragraph applies reasonably well to the second girl, I think... but on the topic of 'loving two', I have to say this: Enjoy it. Revel in the fact that there's more than one person out there that can make you feel special, and remember it. Just don't try and make passes at both of them - pick the one you have better chances with if you want to do anything.
Confession: I'm fairly sure that I suck at relationship advice. If I get praised for this post, my day will be even better. I will probably get up and jump around the room.
Confession: I add afterthoughts to everything, which makes my posts very disorganised.