Thanks for the support @all who gave me feedback.
I considered talking to her, and had actually decided to do so today. Unfortunately, she was in a really
bad mood, so I figured I'd get back to it some time in the future. I'm not really sure when, though, because I didn't feel very pleasant spending time with her today, so she won't really be on my priority list of people I'd like to spend the small amount of time that's left of my visit home.
Natasha, what Monika said - I believe a lot of people just don't have a clue about that kind of stuff. You can always try reminding them to use your female name etc. People can, and will, get used to it
sambot5, I can relate to what you said. I used to be somewhat of a militant atheist, but realised it sucks to act like that. I am still an atheist, but I'm not militant about it, I'd say, at all. I respect other peoples religion, and even though I do like making jokes about that kind of stuff etc - I do not make fun of people who believe, nor do I try to change their mind. I do try to change their minds regarding certain topics - homophobia, for example.
Aaeriele, thanks for sharing.
Hugs for Bassoon [and lanicita, if wanted!], a little late though. I'll quote Monika on my "case": I wish people wouldn't say (and think) such things. It seems that a lot of weddings tend to suck. Like, grow the fuck up people, and be happy about the couple being married right now, and not unhappy because you disapprove some other people getting married. Seriously, thefuck!
On a happier note, I've been contemplating about making a small brochure called "gay is okay" in Serbian (I live in Serbia) which I'd try to spread on the local interwebs. I'd define the basics, such as gender/sex, the meaning of lgbttiq, and terms such as "coming out". I would tackle questions such as why paedophilia and lgbttiq stuff are not the same, the "four walls" argument (it's quite popular here in Serbia - "yeah, yeah, I'm okay with people being gay, just as long as they're gay in their four walls"
), "the gay lifestyle", and such, but in the friendliest possible manner I can. My goal is to reduce homophobia, so I should not act in an attacking manner, rather in an assertive "let's have a little chat" manner. I've got the impression that people are homophobic because they (think they) don't know any lgbttiq people, or anything about them. I've heard about ex-homophobes ceasing to be homophobes after meeting some gay people and becoming friends with them
In autumn 2011, a girl was beaten up for wearing a pro-lgbt shirt under her jacket [some wackos saw her wearing the shirt while she hadn't put on the jacket yet, and followed her, only to attack her with a knife. sadly, the guy who attacked her was released, as he was a minor; i think he was 16. she was okay after the incident, but only thanks to her self-defence, because hadn't she tried to defend herself, she would have most probably ended up being killed.
Even though things seem to be becoming better for the lgbttiq community, they have yet to improve. I figured this could be my 5 cents.
Besides stuff I'd already mentioned, I've been thinking about posting parts of coming out/meeting partners/similar experiences that can be found on Serbian lgbttiq websites. I hope that a story of a real human being might touch them and produce thoughts such as: wait a sec, (s)he's a person with feelings, fears, moments of joy, just like me...
I'd also thought about posting pictures of non-stereotypical lgbt people, such as transsexual women who look totally like cis women, Rob Halford of Judas Priest (:D) - who actually started the trend of leather&spikes among metal fans, by ''borrowing'' it from the bdsm culture - he's publicly gay btw, etc. I'm not sure how exactly I'd fit all this in, though. I've just done the "mini dictionary" for now.
I'd try to write informal and direct, as if I were talking with somebody.
Of course, I'd provide links to Serbian lgbttiq websites at the end.
So - the general idea is to show that lgbttiq people are people, just like straight people. And to make the lgbttiq stuff closer to non-lgbtiqq people.
People vastly vary; there are "feminised" guy and gals, "masculinised" guys and gals, even people who aren't exactly guys or gals, there are trans and cis people, and besides all this, they can all be homo-, bi-, hetero-, or even a- sexual. But, basically, it's like being blonde or black or short, we're all people and there's no damn reason for hating anybody. I'm trying to convey this idea.
Any ideas? Criticism of my ideas?
Am I doing something that might be counter-productive?
Btw, sorry if I mixed up some tenses, I tend to do so, yet find experimenting with non-mainstream past tenses amusing.