in a class today we were just talking about how many of the people who never do immoral things...the uber-chaste, for example do so more because they are not in a position to do otherwise than because of some deep seated belief system. in other words, you justify your lack of a life by claiming it as a choice. asexuality can't be that different...get 40 asexuals in a room together with a keg and you'll see a "revival"
surprise surprise, they look like shiat. but hey, its a good excuse for not having to confidence to ask for it.
Get good at sex, that'll make up for deficiencies elsewhere.
Of course, you ask almost anyone who has a sexual dysfunction and they'll claim they're perfectly normal, perfectly healthy. The denial itself is a symptom of whatever makes them uninterested in sex. But, on the other hand, anything that gets them to pair up instead of inflicting that defect on someone with a normal, healthy desire for sex is a good thing.
If they gain pleasure from cuddling and stuff then they are not asexual just nonsexual, so no they shouldn't be treated as a different orientation. That would require all the other "fetishes" or lack their of to also be treated like an orientation as well.
So what does "validate" mean? They want us to agree that they're not weird? To stop assuming they're in some kind of denial, or else damaged goods? I'm not really sure what concrete social or legislative issue "asexuals" have to hang their abstinent little hats on.
No sex. Normal, healthy, and what else? I'm sorry, you're going to have a hard time selling that. Think about it for just a half a second, and then explain how this trait contributes to the survival of the species.I think that my life is perfectly meaningful and worth living even if I do end up spending it alone. I'm definitely not opposed to finding someone to share my silly life with, but I resent the idea that I'm somehow incomplete or a failure if I don't manage to find someone.
No intelligent person would disagree with you here, but you will have 'failed' if you do want to meet someone and you ruin chances for yourself for whatever reason.
I hate to assume, but I would be interested to know what percentage of these asexual people had a farked-up childhood. And if not farked-up, at least not normal. I wonder how many of them were abused as children.
Reproduction is one of the most deeply ingrained genetic aspects of our behavior. Generally, it does take severe trauma to override something like that.I know ... women who don't care if they never have sex again.
There's actually a term for women like that. They're called "married women past their childbearing years."
Sex is vastly different though. Sex is something that is so deeply ingrained in our psyche that even the most traumetized people will still have it on their mind. It's instinctual and cannot be escaped.
Remember the Shakers? Probably not because they were another "no sex" group. Kinda stymies growth when you can't reproduce. These guys will go the same way.
if the only thing that matters to you is your (or someone else's) sexual orientation, you might as well just end it all right now because you are, in my opinion, only as useful as your internal organs. so go to the hospital, donate yourself and die knowing you finally did somebody some good because while you're living, you are a waste of space.They sell T-shirts touting their lifestyle and hand out pamphlets explaining that they're normal and perfectly happy with their lives.
No. NO. Shut up shut up shut UP. Do NOT do this, you obnoxious, Hare-Krishna-Jehovah's-Witness-Evangelical... NO. STOP IT. NOW. You don't want to have sex, great, fine, whatever, your life, but I DON'T. F*CKING. CARE. Go away.
He's gay and she's a lesbian. Case closed.
First, I call shenanigans.
Meh. If they're content, so be it. Maybe they are deluded, but that's the good thing about the brain - you can fool it if you want to. Maybe one day they will decide that they do want to start farking, but for now maybe this helps them make it through the day.
Ahhhhahah the perfect white people for the new century, no sex - no kids. Our libby lefty global conspiracy should be so proud.
Both of these people need a good banging. Then we'll see how 'asexual' they are.
I'll go out on a limb and blame porn. Is it any wonder that - after watching attractive, energetic and enthusiastic porn stars go at it with wild abandon - that many people might find it hard to get interested in sex with their actual, doughy, meek and entirely unsexy partners? Thoughts . . . . .
Oh man, this is just a way for virgins to come off looking "trendy". This will pass just like the metrosexual fad in a year or two. Afterwards, these asexuals will be kicking themselves in the jewels saying "I can't believe I went 2 years without sex just to be hip". I guess on the bright side, these unwanted virgins aren't procreating, and filling the earth with their ugly offspring.
But I know what you explained works pretty well. A little time and energy, and shazam... a person people will want to spend time with.
The last thing we need is another pack of attention whores pushing their sexual opinions one everyone around them. I'm sure they are just hoping someone will try to "oppress" them so they can get all indignant; now I'm no longer just another boring dork, I'm an OPRESSED MINORITY! -Give me a break.
If you don't have energy for sex, then you are lazy. If you don't have the interest or fire for it, then you have been abused, or have been hurt to some degree. Big difference between the two. I'm sure there is a mix of the two issues that the subject of this article resides upon. ... Sex is as much spiritual as it is physical and visceral. No one can be described as healthy with an absense of a sex drive.
Why is everyone getting so upset about this? I'm sure parading your lifestyle around and claiming to be different and special is much easier on the ol' self esteeem than just admiting that you're ugly and don't have a snow ball's chance in hell of getting laid.
I would be willing to wager that a fair number of these people have hardcore christian upbringings. When all you hear for the first 18+ years of your life is that sex is evil and dirty and should only occur under certain circumstances, then it's easy to see how your head starts to get all messed up about sex.