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Postby sophyturtle » Mon Dec 13, 2010 7:29 pm UTC

Weight is wicked tricky. It changes a lot. In the Glorious People's Republic of Treacle Mine Rd (the name of my apartment) we have a scale next to the toilet. It kinda works, and was left behind by an old roommate of mine. I sometimes see how much weight I lost while on the toilet.

I have been tracking mine a bit too since I heard lose or gain of 10 pounds in a year should be avoided. So I try to keep my weight steady-ish and such. But it is tricky because right before shark week starts I might be 8 pounds heavier than normal.
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Postby Sungura » Mon Dec 13, 2010 11:28 pm UTC

I have that problem, my weight fluctuates about 10 pounds over the course of a month. I look lighter than I am though...people usually guess 160 or so, when really (on the good time of month) I'm more like 185. And it looks like I've lost weight in the last few months with all the caving and capoeira. Actually, it's been stagnate (initially it was a gain, though). I think it's the whole muscle weighs more than fat thing. There is some fat on my tummy and upper arms I would like to be rid of if I could, but it's actually disappearing (mostly thanks to capi) slowly and I have to say I am honestly in the last 6 months or so really happy with my body as a whole, even though I don't feel I'm pretty or anything like that, I feel like my shape is decent and what it will be for me. Yeah, once the bit more from the tum and arms goes, I think I will hit what I perceive for myself as "ideal" but it's not going to change my figure at all when that happens really. I think I'm just kinda in the "this is as good as it gets" mindset, so I'm okay with it.
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Postby podbaydoor » Mon Dec 13, 2010 11:51 pm UTC

Virtual_Aardvark wrote:It's so frustrating that even though I can look at my body and think that I actually look pretty damn hot, I still get urges to skip meals. I don't even know what part of my body I'm trying to "fix" by losing weight.

I...this is exactly what I go through all the time. I even have people telling me I'm attractive on a semi-regular basis, unasked-for. But then I wonder every day, "...am I gaining weight? Is my stomach sticking out a little more than it was before?"
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Postby Cathy » Tue Dec 14, 2010 12:53 am UTC

Ever since being put on psychiatric medications at 13 my weight has been really weird - gained steadily from 85 lbs to 185 lbs 'til age 17 where I went to college, went cold turkey off the drugs, and ended up at 110 only 12 months later. Since then it's not much changed but getting my body image straightened out has been hell. As in, looking at a mirror/reflective window and not recognizing myself at all. Even at 20, a year and a half after "stabilization" at 110-115 my butt/tummy/thighs/face are still changing. Oddly enough my boobs have been 36-C the entire time. O_o

Even living with someone (fiance) I don't remember to eat except for cereal in the mornings. I'd looove some good ways to remember to make/eat lunch/dinner.

Also, I think I'd rather not lose or gain any more weight, like, ever. New clothing every month is mother****ing expensive. Even from goodwill.
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Quote from my guy - it made me feel a better about my body - "It's really sexy when a girl has a tummy and thighs. That stuff is soft and it feels good! I don't want you to turn into sticks, I like it when there's something there." Maybe it'll help?
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Postby Isotope_238 » Tue Dec 14, 2010 3:50 am UTC

beyondweird wrote:I realise this is the opposite problem, hope it doesn't make anyone feel bad, my friends shout at me for it sometimes :(


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Sometimes I wish Woman Thread could start our own country, where we could all never care about what we're "supposed" to feel about our bodies and our minds, and we could all feel awesome all the time, and just forget about all this stupid "you have to feel bad about yourself, because you're not absolutely perfect by some artificial/unattainable standard" crap, and we would all be happy. Pipe dream.

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Postby paulisa » Tue Dec 14, 2010 6:43 am UTC

I gained about 10 kg in the last 2 years, 6 of those last summer. I'm at the top of the "normal weight"-range now. Strangely enough, almost all my clothes from last winter still fit me. When I started work again this month I said I think I don't need a new lab coat, and the guy leading me around (who knew me two years ago) asked if I had gained some weight, and said that it suited me. I dunno, I guess my face is a bit rounder now but it was always kinda round (and looking 5 years younger than I am). Otherwise I can hardly tell the difference on photographs or so. I think the most important thing is to be happy with your weight and shape and everything, because you can only change that within limits and it's crap to be angry at yourself the whole time. Easier said than done.
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Postby ginadagny » Tue Dec 14, 2010 6:44 am UTC

This thread really is awesome. I know I don't post much but I find this thread so supportive and positive (most of the time). Its really nice.

The reason I posted about my insecurities is because I've noticed how much weight I have gained since I started university. I used to be fit thanks to gymnastics but I had to stop a lot of my favorite activities due to the intense workload of nursing school. Hopefully when I graduate things will get better, but right now all I can feel is pressure to be thin again. It's pretty goddamn depressing.

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Postby Teapot » Tue Dec 14, 2010 7:52 am UTC

Cathy wrote:Even living with someone (fiance) I don't remember to eat except for cereal in the mornings. I'd looove some good ways to remember to make/eat lunch/dinner.
This. So much this. I'm fed up of "Hey, it's 11pm... Did I have dinner yet?"

Quote from my guy - it made me feel a better about my body - "It's really sexy when a girl has a tummy and thighs. That stuff is soft and it feels good! I don't want you to turn into sticks, I like it when there's something there." Maybe it'll help?
I appreciate the sentiment behind this one but I really hate when people call skinny girls sticks. I was underweight for most of the last four years and the last I checked I was still a person the whole way through that. I really don't need to be worrying about if people think I'm a stick (or "anorexic" but that's a whole other rant) on top of the part of me that worries about if I'm gaining weight. It just leads to a situation where no matter what happens with my body I feel upset and stress about it anyway.

This is not a rant at you, I'm sorry if I made it sound like it (it's early and I have an exam so I'm kind of in a rush). There are just several words which are likely to trigger my body insecurities - "sticks" is one of them.
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Postby Virtual_Aardvark » Tue Dec 14, 2010 8:18 am UTC

Teapot wrote:
Quote from my guy - it made me feel a better about my body - "It's really sexy when a girl has a tummy and thighs. That stuff is soft and it feels good! I don't want you to turn into sticks, I like it when there's something there." Maybe it'll help?
I appreciate the sentiment behind this one but I really hate when people call skinny girls sticks. I was underweight for most of the last four years and the last I checked I was still a person the whole way through that. I really don't need to be worrying about if people think I'm a stick (or "anorexic" but that's a whole other rant) on top of the part of me that worries about if I'm gaining weight. It just leads to a situation where no matter what happens with my body I feel upset and stress about it anyway.


Yeah, this. I wanted to say the same thing but couldn't find the right words. My weight fluctuates pretty wildly and I need to feel good about myself even when my hip bones poke through.
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Postby Hawknc » Tue Dec 14, 2010 9:11 am UTC

Teapot wrote:
Cathy wrote:Even living with someone (fiance) I don't remember to eat except for cereal in the mornings. I'd looove some good ways to remember to make/eat lunch/dinner.
This. So much this. I'm fed up of "Hey, it's 11pm... Did I have dinner yet?"

I downloaded a reminder app for my phone for this purpose - to bully me into doing daily things I should be doing but forget to. (Astrid Tasks for Android, if you have such a phone, but there's a million other apps for various OSes that do the same thing.) I just set a task to, for example, exercise in the morning before I go to work and have it repeat every day. Having it sit there looking at me every time I check my phone (which I do, frequently and compulsively) works surprisingly well for guilting me into getting things done.

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Postby kellsbells » Tue Dec 14, 2010 9:18 am UTC

Rargh, weight. I'm always super conscious about my figure because my body really, really seems to like storing all of my weight in my belly. So even if the rest of me is quite small, I feel like I'm always rounder than I should be because it just happens to be quite noticeable rather than an even distribution throughout my body.

And yet at the same time, I also have the forgetting-to-eat problem. My current roommate is an avid cook and has repeatedly joked (and seriously questioned) if I have an eating disorder because she never sees me eat. I just am very busy and absentminded. :( I know it's unhealthy for me as well, but I especially don't like being mocked about it. I guess phone reminders might be a very good suggestion indeed.
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Postby blue_eyedspacemonkey » Tue Dec 14, 2010 1:43 pm UTC

My love of cooking (and the fact that I find it relaxing) is pretty much the only reason I remember to cook. In my first year of uni I was eating one meal a day, maybe? And of course, everyone was complimenting me on how I lost weight :roll: Only one person I know would remind me to eat and tut at me if I forgot.
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Postby Zohar » Tue Dec 14, 2010 2:05 pm UTC

I am always a bit jealous of people who "forget to eat". Not until the point of being underweight, of course. But I usually pay attention and remember to eat. Or almost eat unconsciously sometimes...
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Postby Cathy » Tue Dec 14, 2010 3:26 pm UTC

Teapot wrote:I appreciate the sentiment behind this one but I really hate when people call skinny girls sticks. I was underweight for most of the last four years and the last I checked I was still a person the whole way through that. I really don't need to be worrying about if people think I'm a stick (or "anorexic" but that's a whole other rant) on top of the part of me that worries about if I'm gaining weight. It just leads to a situation where no matter what happens with my body I feel upset and stress about it anyway.

This is not a rant at you, I'm sorry if I made it sound like it (it's early and I have an exam so I'm kind of in a rush). There are just several words which are likely to trigger my body insecurities - "sticks" is one of them.


No offense taken, and in his defense, I was having issues of the "I can't eat dinner because I'll gain a pound" type. Shortly thereafter I tossed my scale into a dumpster. I don't need one of those!

Zohar wrote:I am always a bit jealous of people who "forget to eat". Not until the point of being underweight, of course. But I usually pay attention and remember to eat. Or almost eat unconsciously sometimes...

I always end up hungry, so I don't like it so much! I do this:

"Hey, it's 11pm... Did I have dinner yet?"
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Postby podbaydoor » Tue Dec 14, 2010 4:36 pm UTC

I've forgotten to eat enough times in the past 2 years that I am now incapable of eating as much as I used to. Like...yesterday eating 9 dumplings made me feel uncomfortably stretched and bloated, where in high school I could scarf down 15 or 20 without any trouble.
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Postby beyondweird » Tue Dec 14, 2010 4:40 pm UTC

sophyturtle wrote:...the Glorious People's Republic of Treacle Mine Rd (the name of my apartment) ...


I just wanted to say that I love you for this. Also, the house I live in is called Mordor! Yay awesome names!


As for forgetting to eat, I forget to eat when I'm content/over-eat like mad when I'm upset. Luckily, living in a house with 5 other girls has done wonders for this - we all develop weird eating scheldules (mine seems to be about 1pm, 6pm, 11pm for my three meals) but it means there's always something cooking and reminding me to eat :)
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Postby Cassi » Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:30 pm UTC

My boyfriend and I broke up Sunday night, and I've not been doing so great on the eating thing since (or the sleeping thing). One of my flatmates just stood over me while I had some toast after she found out that I've not eaten today.

I definitely fluctuate between overeating and not eating at all when I'm in emotional situations. I think because I've not really been sleeping my body is just really confused, which is making me not feel very hungry. Or something.
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Postby Jessica » Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:35 pm UTC

*hugs*
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Postby Rinsaikeru » Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:44 pm UTC

Good roomate. *hugs* if you'd like them, and please make sure to keep eating.
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Postby beyondweird » Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:51 pm UTC

*more hugs*
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Postby Cassi » Tue Dec 14, 2010 6:02 pm UTC

Hugs are much appreciated, thank you. I have a lot of people around looking after me, so I know they will make sure I eat at least the bare minimum level and don't shut myself away and get all miserable. And just knowing that I have that (and a lot of wonderful people here) is really helpful, even without anyone doing anything.
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Postby Sungura » Tue Dec 14, 2010 10:15 pm UTC

*hugs*
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Postby Cathy » Wed Dec 15, 2010 12:13 am UTC

*hugs*

Now I wanna make rice pudding for you! I always bring rice pudding to one of my friends when she's unhappy. Perfect comfort food!
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Postby GraphiteGirl » Wed Dec 15, 2010 12:34 am UTC

beyondweird wrote:
sophyturtle wrote:...the Glorious People's Republic of Treacle Mine Rd (the name of my apartment) ...


I just wanted to say that I love you for this. Also, the house I live in is called Mordor! Yay awesome names!

I have friends who live in an apartment called Narnia.
And I am jealous of your apartment's name, sophy. Excited to name mine with some very geeky flatmates when we finally find a place.
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Postby Sungura » Wed Dec 15, 2010 12:38 am UTC

Dude, now I want my apartment to have a name. It's just me here though.

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Postby GraphiteGirl » Wed Dec 15, 2010 12:44 am UTC

Ideally it would be based on some feature of your apartment that reminds you of a place from history or lit, or a concept from science. Narnia is named as such because it has an excellent built in cupboard beneath the stairs (I personally would have seen this and gone with Privet Drive, but that could confuse people when directing them to the actual address).
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Postby PictureSarah » Wed Dec 15, 2010 3:40 am UTC

I have a closet under the stairs as well. My home doesn't have a name, but I call the closet "the chokey."
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Postby manictheatrefan » Wed Dec 15, 2010 4:08 am UTC

PictureSarah wrote:I have a closet under the stairs as well. My home doesn't have a name, but I call the closet "the chokey."


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Postby beyondweird » Wed Dec 15, 2010 2:49 pm UTC

GraphiteGirl wrote:Ideally it would be based on some feature of your apartment that reminds you of a place from history or lit, or a concept from science. Narnia is named as such because it has an excellent built in cupboard beneath the stairs (I personally would have seen this and gone with Privet Drive, but that could confuse people when directing them to the actual address).


Mine is Mordor because "one does not simply walk into [my house]".

We moved in first, and the boys we know moved in later, so we visited and named their house. Since I'm 5ft and the only one who can stand up properly in their Basement/Living room, we called it The Shire :)
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Postby Sandry » Wed Dec 15, 2010 5:06 pm UTC

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GraphiteGirl wrote:Ideally it would be based on some feature of your apartment that reminds you of a place from history or lit, or a concept from science. Narnia is named as such because it has an excellent built in cupboard beneath the stairs (I personally would have seen this and gone with Privet Drive, but that could confuse people when directing them to the actual address).


Mine is Mordor because "one does not simply walk into [my house]".

We moved in first, and the boys we know moved in later, so we visited and named their house. Since I'm 5ft and the only one who can stand up properly in their Basement/Living room, we called it The Shire :)

Similarly, my last apartment was "Camelot," because "it is a silly place."

Current apartment is Avalon - we improved on Camelot. :)

I do think the first house in Boston I had, though, had the best name: the Poetic Justice League (we went by "the PJL" for short). I wasn't there for the naming, sadly, so I don't know the full story behind it.
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Postby sophyturtle » Wed Dec 15, 2010 5:11 pm UTC

My last place was Casa de Freedom, which some of my roommates tried to make French from time to time but I will have none of it. Meaux named the Glorious People's Republic and I think it fits well. We often have reasonably priced love and eggs.
I want to get to a place where I am neither conforming nor rebelling but simply being.

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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby meridian » Wed Dec 15, 2010 6:43 pm UTC

I have not settled on a name for my apartment. I am teetering between two ideas, but neither one screams at me. I may poll my roommates (of the ones I am speaking to right now) and see. I think that the new roommate should definitely be included in this discussion because naming apartments is what we do in this area, I guess.

My room alone may remain the Annex though because it fits my life (and golly do I ever want out of it).

The roommate I'm not speaking to...
I'm having difficulty determining whether he doesn't like me because I'm female, because I'm a charity case or because I cause problems in his life. To be honest, I'm frustrated as crap with him, but that's mainly because he has no clue how to communicate or about the importance of communication, but then has the audacity to tell me I'm not doing it right. I don't know if I can ask the question without giving details, but how does one figure out if a person you know is a misogynistic jerk or a plain old normal kind of jerk?

Another thing, re: weight
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I hate how much I weigh, not because it's a number but because it's not how I feel inside. I can generally disconnect from the number and the general dislike of my heftiness, but sometimes the world comes crashing in again. Just the other day, I developed a rash after walking about a mile in a particular pair of clothes between my thighs. It was ridiculous because that particular pair of pants never caused a problem before, but they did then and after a shorter distance than I've walked in them before. I freaked out because I was 'shark week'ing it and was very bloated, to the point where my once loose pants were close fitting again, but I fought to reject that idea. It was very hard. I still don't want to eat - except I'm 'blessed' with my mood being very dependent on my blood sugar levels and stomach problems that make having it mostly empty very loud and noticeable. The only time I was ever able to forget to eat without being actively sick was when I was severely depressed this last summer. Then I only went a handful of days before I decided that it was best to get back into that vicious cycle again.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby GraphiteGirl » Thu Dec 16, 2010 2:38 am UTC

meridian wrote:how does one figure out if a person you know is a misogynistic jerk or a plain old normal kind of jerk?

It's hard, because there's a great deal of overlap - jerks who are jerks to everyone are often jerks in unimaginative ways, and misogyny is a really easy, shortcut kind of way in which to be a jerk to women, with lots of cultural backup, so misogynist bullying statements can be really easy to come up with if you're feeling lazy. Best way might be compare how he treats men he likes with women he likes, or men he doesn't like with women he doesn't like.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby Rinsaikeru » Fri Dec 17, 2010 3:24 am UTC

I got a package in the mail. :D

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It was apparently from the most literate squirrel I've ever heard of. :D Thank you!

Contents (till I get a chance to take a photo):
Strawberry Shortcake Doll--I had one when I was a kid, I still remember that smell. I'm fairly certain my halloween costume did not smell that good.
Plaster paintable bobble head dude--I will get him all spiffified and show you him. He's called Norbert.
A slinky.
And coincidentally the tiny notebooks I always keep one of in my purse for scribbling down stuff--I was pretty astonished and now I'm restocked for a while.

Thanks again secret squirrel santa.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby existential_squirrrel » Fri Dec 17, 2010 6:44 am UTC

gah! the acne from hell is back...with a vengeance :(

I'm not sure why... finals are over- I'm much less stressed about life now, lol, I'm home in one piece, and shark week was last week.
Could it be that I'm not used to eating certain oily foods (that I'm eating again after not eating them for a long time) or that I'm sweating more due to more karate classes (went from just doing forms in the dorm hallways to actual classes with sparring, forms, and weapons in less than a week)?
rawr- in this case, it means "my acne needs to go away" in dinosaur

has anybody here on this forum ever been tested for a latex allergy? I am going to get tested to make sure that I don't have an episode like I did in the lab a few days back, but I can't get a definitive method that they use to test for the allergy. some websites say it's a skin test, where other sites say they draw blood and do an antibody count that way :shock: . I just hope they don't stab me with needles... they aren't exactly on my friends list.

on a much happier note,
I got an A in genetics/molecular bio (lecture/lab combo), an A in Organismal bio lab, and an A in my honours class. :D
I passed the science seminar
now I just sit and wait for general chem (lecture/lab combo) and calculus. let's hope for some more A's, but B's will suffice
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby podbaydoor » Fri Dec 17, 2010 5:03 pm UTC

Came across this today: a design student came up with two clocks that visualize the female reproductive cycle.

http://infosthetics.com/archives/2010/1 ... ility.html

They look really cool.
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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby sophyturtle » Fri Dec 17, 2010 5:11 pm UTC

The life clock is a little scary to me. Like it would be saying 'there are only 8 left! do you want your mother to die without grandchildren!'
I know this is silly. It likely stems more from my father gushing over my SO's son (talking about building a play room so he can play next time he comes up during the first ever visit he comes up, but not saying his name - instead, grandchildren (when my brother has never had an SO he brought home)) then my own want to make baby feelings.

Still, awesome clocks. They scare me but I want them.

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Re: [SAFESPACE] Woman Thread - All Things Women. Period.

Postby podbaydoor » Tue Dec 21, 2010 8:55 pm UTC

Fuck.
(TMI)
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My cunt smells awful. It never used to; it's been this way for over a week now. I'm actually afraid to have sex, it smells so bad.

Maybe it's diet. Maybe the UTI is back. I don't know.
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