Firstly, I'll mostly just use geometric language, so I'll talk about spheres instead of planets, and use points, lines and planes to talk about what's going on.
Note that a point on a sphere is private iff the plane tangent to that point is such that all parts of all the spheres are to one side of that plane. In a two planet system, the set of points which are private, or public, on one of the planets is a hemisphere, and the line dividing the two halves I will call a terminator. My revised definition of what is public and private might lead to some disagreement regarding the disposition of points on the terminators, but I could care less as these have no area.
Moreover, we can see that the private area on some sphere will be the intersection of n-1 hemispheres of that sphere, a sort of spherical polygon. The proposition that I put is that these polygons can be reassembled into a whole sphere, so that the private area on all spheres combined is the area of one of the spheres.
To see this, fix a plane, P_0, and form the set \{P_t : t\in R\} of all planes parallel to it such that |x-y| = \min \{d(x,y):\ x\in P_x, y\in P_y\} ie, I've indexed all the planes parallel to P_0, in a nice way. There exists some smallest interval [a,b] such that all parts of the spheres are all to only one side of P_a, and all to the other side of P_b. Note that P_a must intersect at least one sphere, or else a smaller interval does the job, and it can only touch any sphere at at most one point, or else that sphere has parts that are not on the correct side of the plane.
If P_a intersects the spheres at precisely one point, then that point is indisputably private. On the other hand, if it touches more than one sphere, then these points are on terminators, and I again mention that they have a total area of 0, and so are inconsequential.
Moreover,P_0 was chosen arbitrarily, so for most directions that a plane can be oriented, there is a point within a private spherical polygon that has a tangent plane that is parallel to that plane.
I've been rather sloppy here, in that I haven't mentioned that we can do the same thing for P_b, and so we actually get two points whose tangents are parallel, and we get full coverage of the the sphere... Kinda clunky but I think I get there in the end. I had another idea, about scaling the centres of the spheres so that they approached a point, without scaling the radii, but that was clunkier still.