0513: "Friends"

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0513: "Friends"

Postby von Eisenstein » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:06 am UTC

Merg'd with other one. Please try to only post in the earliest created thread? I understand people like to post in the one with the correctest formatting, but this usually gets sorted out at some point anyway.

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Link: http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/friends.png

Alt Text: Friends with Detriments.

...interesting.
And I think "loneliness" is spelled wrong.
Nonetheless, very thought-provoking. =D But isn't that what XKCD sets out to do?
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Cassidi3 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:08 am UTC

this one makes me feel all sad and woogly inside
but i do love it so.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby videogamesizzle » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:10 am UTC

well. that wasn't the ending i was expecting. it started out like "oh, here's this guy, he likes this girl, he's gonna be there for her... okay a little creepy now... oh my..." :shock:

"And I think "loneliness" is spelled wrong."

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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Eternal Density » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:10 am UTC

And then there's guys who take relationship advice from xkcd...
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Kirby54925 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:10 am UTC

"lonliness" should be "loneliness." Just nitpicking.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby 10nitro » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:10 am UTC

Doesn't the thought that some of your friends might want to "do you" creep you out. Like you don't even know it, but one of your best fiends...

... damn it, so close. I would have had it if I didn't have to think of something to say.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby Xaith » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:11 am UTC

*sigh*

Once again xkcd reflects my life... Good comic.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby xtownaga » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:11 am UTC

sadly accurate all too often.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Contrabass » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:12 am UTC

This is basically the story of my semester.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby GodShapedBullet » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:12 am UTC

I wish my friends told me about their new relationships by bringing them over and saying "I'm going to date this jerk."
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby joee » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:12 am UTC

I wonder if that would actually work. Everyone loves the friend zone
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby theta4 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:13 am UTC

Unfortunately, my XKCD reading friends, this is not the first comic thread in the forum. This one was made first: http://forums.xkcd.com/viewtopic.php?f=7&t=31441

But my title looks better...hmmm, which to choose
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Wehpudicabok » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:14 am UTC

The alt-text is particularly brilliant with this comic.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby theta4 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:14 am UTC

Nice soliloquy, stick man. But, it didn't work this time ;)
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby burninate58 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:15 am UTC

oh friendzone you cruel abode
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby masamune55 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:17 am UTC

I took this approach. It took me 6 months to get with the girl I now love. <3
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby krynd » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:17 am UTC

Pretty good comic, considering that (from my perspective), Randall ninja'd it from my head. Either that, or he "ninja'd" from Penny Arcade (I think), that did something like this almost 2 years ago.

Anyway, I've always found doing things like this to be highly creepy, but it really depends on the situation. In this comic, however, it's obvious that the guy's using the pretenses of friendship to further his own agenda. The ending, of course, wins the comic.

Now, a quick show of hands: who here has either planned to, or actually done, something like this?

I haven't, primarily because of what is described in panel 12 (if I counted right): she doesn't actually love him, just the familiarity of the relationship.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Steve the Pocket » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:18 am UTC

GodShapedBullet wrote:I wish my friends told me about their new relationships by bringing them over and saying "I'm going to date this jerk."

I wish everyone was that self-aware and up-front about when they do something stupid or mean, period. Characters in comics have it so easy; their adversaries just straight-up admit to being jerks or doing something idiotic the way no real human being ever would. Today we have a pair doing it to each other.

Is there a term for that? I'm trying to get a page started on TVtropes.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby pacific14586 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:19 am UTC

1. Loneliness is spelled lonliness in the comic.

2. I hate when humor is mixed into an otherwise insightful comic. I've taken the liberty of making today's xkcd more real, more beautiful. http://www.isowantone.com/xkcd.jpg
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby lethesoda » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:19 am UTC

Hooray, my first Get out of my Head, Randall!
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby mackereth » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:20 am UTC

He might be a jerk, but he does have hair...

I had a friend once who told me that she fantasised about all of her friends. She was a little taken aback, I think, when my only reaction was "Oh? How was I?"
She declined to answer, though, damnit.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby silverarya » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:21 am UTC

This is... kinda creepy... the exact same thing happened to me with one of my guy friends...
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby majnun » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:21 am UTC

Brutal, harsh, and awesome. Nice job
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby rhombus2210 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:22 am UTC

Story of my life.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby toysbfun » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:22 am UTC

This sounds familiar. I can't remember if it's because it seems to be how some other guys think or because I've recently found myself in the friend zone with a girl I was going to ask out. Of course, she turned out to be certifiable so it all kinda worked out for the best.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby roboman » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:24 am UTC

Unfortunately that hit really close to home.
It is basically the story of every relationship I ever tried to peruse, and sadly it never worked out. Time to go lay down and "think" about entering relationships.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby krynd » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:25 am UTC

joee wrote:I wonder if that would actually work. Everyone loves the friend zone

Probably not, as most people consider friends to be "just friends", and it usually takes something radical to change that. In the case of the comic, it would be her apparent epiphany that the losers she dated didn't fulfill the needs her friend was readily able to, and since he conveniently "never had a girlfriend", she decided to date (or whatever) him.

Still, I stand by my original thought, as for many people I know, friendship is considered a more stable thing than a relationship, and many are frightened of losing the friendship they once had (failing to realize that two mature people can always go back to being "just friends", once they've properly dealt with the aftermath). Couple that with the convenience of dating with a "less-than-longterm" goal (ie just for "kicks" or whatnot. I have some douchy friends, I know) while abusing the friend for emotional support, and there's virtually no reason to date a friend (repeat: I have douchy friends).
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby littlesuz13 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:30 am UTC

I finally realize that moment people have where they say "get out of my head Randall." This is sooooo the story of my life. Especially the part on the fear of rejection. I'd rather keep them as a friend than be rejected by them. Ugh... sometimes I hate my life...
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Random Precision » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:32 am UTC

You know, initially I was bothered by the fact that Randall seems to have been spying on my junior year of high school. But since he wrote a comic about it, I've decided I'm alright with it.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby wasp » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:35 am UTC

This is exactly what I do. Get out of my head!!!
It didn't work this time, though. It took me about e months to find out I remind her too much of her ex. ...*sigh*

But if it doesn't work out, you still usually end up with a friend. That's how I justify it. I assume I would get rejected if I just ask her out. Given that, the expected value is somewhat higher with this strategy. (Yes, I know this is a faulty assumption. Obviously I am just emotionally fragile).
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby cantimatt » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:35 am UTC

Did anyone else think of:

I’ll listen to the things you say about the way you feel
I’ll smile an understanding smile when your boyfriend calls
And you’ll go, but you’ll think of me
And one day you’ll knock on my door
Because you want to be
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby alchemistique » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:36 am UTC

Brilliant. And, sadly, the story of my life.
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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby Nasaniaru » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:38 am UTC

I don't know whether or not to support this Anonymous Stick Figure Man or not because in the first couple of panels, he seems to be sincere and honest, but by the end, he seems to think that if the Anonymous Stick Figure Woman marries him, she won't be happy, effectively ruining his chances of ever marrying the Anonymous Stick Figure Woman.

But I'd have to agree with most people here, Sure, having a wife is better than having a friend, but having a friend is MUCH better than having someone reject your feelings of wanting something more.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby aleflamedyud » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:39 am UTC

Dude. Randall's been reading Reddit too much. Sure, we've all heard of the Internet Nice Guy, but in my experience if you're going to develop a crush on a friend they generally start out as a genuine friend rather than a repressed crush.

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Re: Friends Discussion

Postby wasp » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:43 am UTC

krynd wrote:Pretty good comic, considering that (from my perspective), Randall ninja'd it from my head.


I think, from my any given person's perspective, it is just as likely that he ninja'd it from your head as if he thought of it himself. And for the record, he totally ninja'd it from my head. ;)
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby baker's kilobyte » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:43 am UTC

10nitro wrote:Doesn't the thought that some of your friends might want to "do you" creep you out. Like you don't even know it, but one of your best fiends...


Well, I don't have many fiends, and no best ones, but doesn't everyone do that thing where you check someone out automatically the first time you meet them, and then later, when (if) you get to be friends, you feel weird for having thought of them that way (even if for just a fleeting moment)...


No? Is it just me being a weirdo again?

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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Kokuro » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:44 am UTC

Oh me yarm! I'm going through this issue right now! She's an amazing girl, and I realized about a week ago that after knowing her for almost a year I've fallen in love with her. But I have those exact same feelings as the guy in the comic. She just recently broke up with her boyfriend and I know this is probably my only chance, but if she doesn't like me the way I love her, I don't know if I'd be able to go on, knowing I f'd the chance to at least stay friends. So I'm doing everything I can just to stay close friends with her. It hurts so much. I don't fall in love easily, I've had thousands of crushes, but only three girls (her being the third) have ever made it to the love stage. I'm in love with her in every sense of the word. She's a beautiful girl with shoulder length dark blonde hair and the most beautiful hazel eyes you could ever look into. She's not huge in the chest area, but what she has is just right for her body. And her personality, Oh me yarm!!! She's sweet, and kind, and caring, and funny, and even a little dirty. I'll never forget one day we were standing there and she had her phone in her back pocket, all of sudden it started vibrating and she goes, "Ohh, I'm vibrating," and after checking the message she looks at me and kind of winks saying, "But I don't need a vibrator, I've got a boyfriend." Granted I'm sure she's as innocent as the day is long, but it's the naughtyness behind it that's what makes it so appealing. I'd litterally do anything for this girl, and while she thinks of me as a good friend, I know she doesn't think of me the way I think of her. Her birthday is coming up soon. I'm planning on getter her a card, a gift card to Dunkin, (she's in love with Dunkin and probably does run on it lol) and a single rose. I know she'll probably yell at me for it, saying she can't accept it all, and I plan on simply telling her that she's the only person at work I'd ever go to all the trouble for. Hopefully she'll finally realize I love her, and that knowledge will be enough for her. I'm not the greatest looking guy in the world, and I probalby don't deserve her love, but when I love someone, they're the only one I ever think of. So, wish me luck guys.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby richlayers » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:53 am UTC

I can't decide if it's worse to be the guy or the girl in this situation. I think I'd prefer to be the jerk.
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Cassidi3 » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:55 am UTC

aleflamedyud wrote:Relationships are like stem cells. You have to direct them towards being what you want, or they become something else entirely.

ROFL!
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Re: "Friends" Discussion

Postby Pizzashark » Fri Dec 05, 2008 5:55 am UTC

aleflamedyud wrote:Relationships are like stem cells. You have to direct them towards being what you want, or they become something else entirely.


And I thought "Friends with Detriments" was good. Damn I love xkcd. There's so many people smarter and wittier than me here!
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