twiggydanger wrote:this image is something that could only have been created by a man because most women have a totally justified fear of being attacked outside of our homes
I'm afraid that's true. Why is it? First off, there's biased sampling involved. If a woman spends 1/3 of her time at home, and attacks come completely randomly, then 1/3 of attacks would come while she's at home. More than that because some of the time she would be better protected. If she works in an office building during regular office hours, she would get some protection by numbers during that time.
But I suspect it is not random. If she lives alone, or if an attacker believes her home is empty before she arrives, that would make her home one of the safest places to attack. Most people will hesitate to come into her home to help her, because of their sense of propriety. That's certainly true of me. Once I was taking my 4-year-old daughter on a walk, and we passed a condo where a woman and a man were having a loud argument in spanish. The woman sounded angry and afraid, but I definitely wasn't ready to intervene. Then she came running out onto the lawn and he came out and grabbed her. My daughter asked "What are they doing?" and I said loudly "Maybe they're playing. If she was serious she'd scream". Then she screamed and I called 911. I felt a little wimpy for not getting more involved, but my daughter was there. And if I got hurt nobody would have much sympathy for me, while if I hurt him she might sympathize with him and get me arrested. Before I got through talking to the police a carload of hispanic men stopped and chased him away. Lower-class people tend to get upset if you call the police, but they shrugged it off that time.
It's like ChaungTzu said. You can put your valuables in a safe so people won't steal them, but then some strong thief might carry away the whole box, happy that he didn't have to look all over for scattered stuff. I wish I had a good solution, but I don't.
yr male privilege is showing
He feels embarrassed for getting scared. He does have a right to feel embarrassed. Men are conditioned to think they're supposed to be able to handle anything. Ghosts and vampires and such excepted. It's a stupid belief. It's silly to think that you can walk into an ambush made by people who have their strategy all planned out, and beat them all up. So we have men who carry dinky little handguns thinking they can walk into an ambush and win that way. But not unlikely the other side has planned for that too. If they keep the situation ambiguous until the split-second the wave-function collapses, you're going to lose that gun. Unless you're willing to act like an utter asshole a whole lot of times around people who had no intention of attacking you. There's no good solution. Luckily, men are not that likely to get attacked in the first place, and when it does happen it's often only for money.
Your situation is different from Randall's, but I think he has the right to laugh at his own problems even when they are so much less than yours.
The Law of Fives is true. I see it everywhere I look for it.