Shit dude, babies only grow inside women. That's
just not fair.
... and it's not unfair towards men
, by the way.
Abortion isn't an opt-out. It's not legal everywhere, or at all times. It's not available
most places where it's legal. It's not financially (time off, travel, procedure) feasible for all women. Nor is it universally accepted, morally or religiously. So stop whinging that since you can't make
someone else do what you want with their body. It's not your body. For at least the fifth time, you don't get to demand a third turn just because the other party goes after you. That's
not fair. That's being whiny.
Second, you claim adoption is a women-biased in the sense that she can opt-out without telling the father. But it gets ye olde Father out of being a parent too, in case you forgot. Making your case that he needs an opt-out there completely spurious. Clueless uninvolved guy who impregnated someone on a one night stand just got off the hook.
You seem so direly focused on conniving women getting pregnant and not telling the father. But women certainly aren't the only ones who can be deceiving. They aren't even close to the majority. The reverse is far, far more common. Do you know how many single mother there are out there who aren't receiving child support?
And what if, after a couple agrees to have a child, it's the father that has a change of heart (which, statistics demonstrate is much more common)? Now he has your opt-out to completely screw mother and child
. That's why the State doesn't get involved; it sees two things 1) an entirely messy he-said / she-said situation and 2) a competing balance of interests between [1 person] and [1 person caring for a baby]. It's entirely clear, from a societal standpoint which has precedence -- and that's the kid. The state looks at the two most directly responsible parties (mother & father) and says "You're It".
As for putative father registries: Yes, if you want to exert your notification rights, you have to register. Otherwise, guess what? No one is aware of who you've been having sex with, nor can they compel women to reveal everyone they've
been having sex with. But this is for men who want
to be involved, which isn't particularly germane to your arguments to 'protect' fathers who want out.
Making sex a willing exposure to 18 years of financial contribution
... making? It's ALWAYS been that way. Only recently has there been any shift away from that model. Abortion, even as limited as it is today, has only been available for 30 odd years. Even adoption, the way it currently exists in the US (family creation rather than adoption of already related persons) is a relatively new phenomena (virtually non-existent 50-60 years ago) that isn't at all widespread in other cultures.