meatyochre wrote:A white parent would frequently be the object of racism when seen in public with his/her wife and child. Not when by him/herself, I guess. But as the white half of an interracial relationship, I am subjected to racism from family and strangers, I witness it directed at my boyfriend, and if we had a child, I would be more aware of racial issues than a white person who never dated outside their race.
I do think it's a valid point that whites in general would tend to be less aware of racial issues, but once you have a child with someone of another race, that white person becomes VERY cognizant of racial tensions, out of necessity.
I get what you are saying here, but I think there is still a difference between direct experience and second hand experience. I also think that experience of racism in one situation helps understand racism in a different situation, but is not the same as being in that second situation.
For example, if you had a mixed race child and that child was being bullied at school for racial reasons, you would understand, you would empathise and you would bring some of your own experiences of being racially abused to the situation. But you have never been in that particular situation . And I do realise that it is possible to give good advice about situations you have never experienced, but that is the sort of situation I was originally thinking of.
I'd also say that even if you are part of a couple, your experiences of the same event of racism may be different. If someone is racially abusive to a couple, the chances are that it's targeted at one person in the couple, rather than the couple as a single entity.
I don't disagree with what you are saying, but I just think there are degrees of empathy and experience.
The only part of what you say that I disagree with is the bit where you say "a white parent would frequently be the object of racism". That's definitely something specific to a region or area. Here in the UK, about half of black men (for example) are in relationships with white women. So it's normal to see interracial couples and racism from family or strangers is not something you would necessarily experience frequently (or even at all).