It’s the Trauma-Bonding Talking:
article wrote:you see, any man who demands PIV or engages in it for that matter is making himself dangerous to women, by definition. and when a woman trusts a man to keep her safe…if that man demands or engages in PIV with her, he is exploiting that trust.
“stockholm syndrome” might seem a bit extreme to apply to most het relationships that arent traditionally abusive…but theres something going on here. at least, for those of us who arent essentialist, and who just dont believe this shit about women when it comes to sex ”feeling” so deeply, and stuff, and things.
because the sad, sick truth of it is that every single man with whom we have ever had intercourse is just some tool who laid pipe, at our expense. thats all. if it hurts to think about it that way…well it hurts, whether or not you choose to think about it. thats kind of my point, actually. PIV hurts and is harmful to women, but not to men. how can you tell? we form emotional bonds with men we have fucked, that are inappropriate, and not reciprocal. work backwards, if you have to, if you cant see that PIV hurts, and is dangerous to women. look at the most common “female response” to PIV (emotional attachment), and tell me it doesnt look a hell of a lot like another commonly-recognized bonding-response to having experienced extreme terror, and the fear of death.
article wrote:the thing is, that the specifically-female harms of rape are identical to the specifically-female harms of PIV, undertaken when the woman does not want to become pregnant. and even assuming that an individual man does not consciously wish to terrorize, colonize, mutilate and/or annihilate his partner by fucking her, he is, in fact, placing her in harms way. to incur the same female-specific harm as the female-specific harm that occurs, deliberately, with rape. unwanted pregnancy.
does intention matter? and are these men really as innocent as they, uh, feign? well, as mary daly observed with men who surgically mutilated women by lobotomizing them, once these men realized that the end-result of a surgical lobotomy was to make women “good housekeepers” and to destroy their creativity and personality, and they did it to even more women after that…its perfectly clear that at some point, that result was exactly what they wanted to achieve. they kept doing it, intentionally, in order to get the result they (obviously) wanted. which was to destroy women (and in the case of surgical lobotomies, to replace them with meat-bots. and are we to believe that these womens husbands stopped fucking them after their lobotomies were completed? sure mkay). clearly, if you continue to do something, once you know the result, the result *is* your intention. see? its intentional.
so…when the female-specific harms and cruel intentions behind PIV (all PIV, including rape) are so painfully obvious…what in the everloving fuck are the fun-fems going on about, when they continue happily framing the “sexual” issue as an issue of “consent,” enthusiastic or otherwise? seriously? what is this about?
Am I misguided for taking this seriously enough to feel guilty? Or is there something to it?