Roberto Font wrote: Uzh wrote:
Roberto Font wrote:The only reason that people should ever get married is because they love each other enough to want to be together for the rest of their life's.
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So you you took the romance out of the comic title, I took the sarcasm.
PS: Thanks to god my wife isn't nerd enough to ever know this forum exists. If I'm mistaken - you know, why I married you, honey, do you?
Hahahaha ok I don't mean to start an argument about that, I respect everyone's opinions (even if I don't share them) and I don't even deny that getting married for other reasons like some of those you just wrote might be beneficial or convenient, I´m just trying to say that none of those are the ideals of the marriage institution, and in many cases getting married for the wrong reasons might bring a lot of suffering and problems (I know it firsthand because my parents got married just because my mom got pregnant and trust me, no one got any good out of that, it only meant years of suffering). Anyway my point really was that implying that their reason to get married might not be the most "correct" one could be offensive, who knows? They might be very much in love (Which I really hope is the case).
PS: Besides, you can clearly tell that the comic depicts a religious marriage, which is not the same has a legal one, I agree completely that a legal marriage out of convenience might be a good thing (even if it is clearly against the law in many cases), but a religious one? Well that would be just to hypocritical for me to accept.
1. *rest of their lives
. Sorry, that's been bugging the hell out of me.
2. I think that in many cases, marrying for love
(which can be fleeting and can cloud one's judgment) is the situation that can "bring a lot of suffering and problems." In marriages of practicality, there is less likely to be an emotional backdraft when things (inevitably) hit a rocky patch. The person above who mentions that she married for purposes of citizenship, for instance, is less likely to feel heartbroken or betrayed when differences arise, because she presumably has less emotionally vested in it. Her marriage might not be one of romance and undying devotion (though maybe it is, who knows), but it's probably a good deal more stable and well-balanced than some marriages of people who married for a love that didn't last.
Also, my own parents got married for the same reason yours did, and they've been quite happily married for 40+ years; besides which a pregnancy usually results from two people being (or thinking they are) in love. In that light, your parents' marriage can actually stand as an example of why marrying for "impersonal" reasons might be the better option, though my parents' marriage indicates that a generalization based on that assumption would be incorrect.
3. I'm not sure how we got to "the cartoon characters are getting married for the wrong reasons and it's hypocritical," but in any event I don't see anything at all to indicate that the comic depicts a religious marriage - there's a dress and veil/bow-tie, an arch (presumably floral), and an officiant. Nothing anywhere to indicate religion that I see.
4. Last but certainly not least, I think you completely missed the point of the comment you called insensitive. RogerB's post was referencing the fact that too often, people sort of coast through life, thinking that they'll settle down with the person they love *after* they've finished their postgraduate studies... gotten their dream job... lost weight... traveled the world... turned 30... made their first million... become famous... solved world hunger... written a novel... whatever. RogerB's post was simply pointing out that people who have survived major illnesses tend to realize what's important: that "life's too short" to squander time that you could be spending with the one you love; that if you love someone and know you want to marry them, you shouldn't wait for "some day" but should seize the moment before it's taken away from you.
You said, "it implies that the reason for getting married is that he is coming out of a traumatizing experience and he realized that life is short, and saying something like that its just terrible." How on earth can it be terrible for someone to realize that they do *not* have an infinite number of days so they want to spend every single day they have, starting RIGHT NOW, with the person they love, instead of letting any of those days slip away? Good Lord, Hollywood and the romantic novel industries would collapse in on themselves if they had to give up the trope of "Darling, all this has made me realize that I have been a fool not to spend every possible moment with you - I don't want to lose one more minute, marry me, marry me today!"
The only possible way I can see it being "terrible" or "insensitive" is if you're assuming that the person is saying, "Wow, I almost died; I'd better grab the first random stranger I see and marry them, just so I can have the experience of 'getting/being married' and check that off of my Things To Accomplish In Life list."
Consider this: I know a couple who announced, in 2009, that they will be getting married in 2012. It's going to take them that long, they decided, to properly plan and pay for the wedding. Although I respect their decision and wish them nothing but joy, I have to wonder... if one of them is (gods forbid) stricken by a fatal illness in 2013 or a car accident in 2011, will they be happy that they spent three years planning their wedding, instead of spending those three years being married? Nowadays of course people tend to move in together without a second thought so "being married" is only a matter of paperwork in many cases, but the point remains: When you realize that "life's too short" you're more inclined to revise your priorities, and (for instance) realize that having a big fancy wedding is nice, but what you REALLY want is to get married to the person you love, right now, before another day passes by, so that you can spend as much of your life as possible loving them, and being loved by them, and having the world know it.
There's nothing insensitive about it in the least.
Best wishes for the future to RogerB, and to Randall (although I wonder if we might be reading too much into the comic).