Yay! to Cathy.
Fortunately, people working such tables tend to be broad-minded and diplomatic. OTOH, it's easy to understand why many LGBTQI people are not so broad-minded, and can be suspicious or downright hostile to people with whom they have philosophical or political differences. My attitude is that it's easy to be negative or bitter, especially when you or your loved ones have been victims of the prevailing social attitudes, but it's more constructive to focus on the positive.
Some lesbian, bi and feminist people take a very dim view of behaviour that they see as upholding traditional binary gender roles. But binary gender roles etc can be fun. They are only evil when they're used to hurt and trap people. Unfortunately, it's very easy to take all this stuff way too seriously, it's not easy to chill out and realize that it's really all just a big game.
By calling it a game I'm not trying to make light of the situation, far from it. It takes a very enlightened being to not get caught up in this game, whether you're "straight" or LGBTQI. It's to the advantage of people with straight privilege to convince the rest of us to play the game according to their rules, and for many of us that's just not feasible, even if it were desirable.
Metaphysician wrote:If this is the wrong place to be posting something like this please let me know and I'll take it down. I love all of you and I really am not looking to make your life more difficult or stressful than it already is.
Greetings, Metaphysician. Allies are always welcome. And thanks for doing your utmost to be sensitive. But yeah, this safespace thread might not be the best place to have the sort of discussion you're wanting, since it could trigger too many people. OTOH, I think an open discussion about such matters would be more valuable to you than private tuition, since you really need input from a broad spectrum of people to properly learn the stuff you're wanting to learn about.
Maybe this could be a suitable topic for another thread on this board, either in General or maybe in Serious Business (if you want to focus on the political aspects rather than the personal ones)? (Thoughts, anyone?)
In the mean time, may I suggest that you have a look at various LGBTQI blogs, if you haven't done so already. I'm sure that you'll get some good information from such sites, since ranting about injustice / insensitivity to LGBTQI people & issues is more acceptable on a blog than it is in this thread.
* hugs to amie *
I guess you're still living in the Mother country...
My advice is to choose your battles. It's possible to educate some people, but others will resist all attempts, since their attitudes to matters of sexuality & gender expression are just too rigid. If you try too hard with such people there's the danger that you'll simply reinforce their faulty mindset.
Here's something that you might like to meditate upon: the truly greatest of teachers are those that lead by perfect example, not those that are merely skilled debaters.