big boss wrote:
Disregarding your sarcasm, you should be able to learn everything you need to know about sex from your partner I'd think.
No, not really. Or at least not if your partner isn't a lot more experienced. And even then, it's not likely to be a exhaustive education. There is some things it's hard to figure out on your own. Such as:
What does 'enthusiastic consent' mean, and why should it be the minimum standard of having sex rather than just consent?
How to avoid pregnancies?
How to avoid STD's?
If introducing toys, which are safe, and how do you use them?
Where do you get tested for STD's? Getting tested between each partner is a really good idea.
When should you start having sex? (answer, when you're ready for it, and not a moment earlier, but if you're ready earlier than your partner, don't pressure them)
Your partner might not know all of those, and even if she/he does, might not be be good at teaching them - or simply not think about their partner not knowing it.
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it - Aristotle
A White Russian, shades and a bathrobe, what more can you want from life?