Amie wrote:I was annoyed because they were all like "Oh but you ARE privileged". Yeah right. I have lost friends and jobs because of my lack of "feminity" and other reasons. Of course I haven't found trouble with other things that transfolk might have trouble with and I will fight for their rights until I run out of breath. But there's plenty of cis-privileges agender folk don't get and it's not easily noticeable but that doesn't mean we're leading perfect lives.
Yeah, this seems similar to the "bisexuals are heteroprivileged". Yes, we are, as long as we stay in the closet - you know, just like gay people who stay in the closet. Why talk so much about bisexuals being heteroprivileged and so little about straight people being heteroprivileged? Likewise, why put so much emphasis on the (partial) cisprivilege of agender people when cis people like me have so much more of it?
Last night I had a dream in which I was pregnant. When I woke up I burst into tears, since I will never get to experience that and would be willing to trade anything for it
When I hear people complaining about periods, there's always the superficial "I'm glad I don't have to deal with that", but I would gladly accept it without second thought in exchange for baby-making bits.
The other thing is getting hormones. I still haven't gone to a GP to get them, even though I know in theory that all I need is to ask and I'll get them. Every time I mean to I just can't summon up the courage to pick up the phone, and I'm stuck on the whole 'hating doing things I've never done before'. The fact that I need to speak with a real person to organise this is terrifying (can't just get an appointment by e-mail), especially since I've never made a doctor's appointment before, never visited one on my own and the doctor is going to be a complete stranger in a place I've never been before. And then I need to tell them I'm trans-, which is terifying in its own right, and I don't know the exact process of what happens then.
I'm so with you. I have terrible problems calling new doctors to make appointments, for the most trivial illnesses or problems.
In the US there are text-to-voice services for the deaf, hard-of-hearing and people with communication disabilities e.g. on the autism spectrum and I think your anxiety issues would qualify, too. Is there such a service in your area?
If there isn't, can you get someone else to call for you?
Or would you find it easier to go there and make an appointment at the desk instead of calling?
Do I need a blood test? I hate needles (yes, I know I'll need to get used to them), and my last blood test was horrifically painful.
My first several blood tests were terribly painful. So I thought they are just liars when they claim "it won't hurt". But then I was at a hospital and it actually hurt zero. So it depends entirely on the skill of the blood taker.
I'd say the important thing is not to look at how they stick the needle in.
*huggles* and good luck with everything.
PM 2Ring wrote:Oh, yeah. Some trans people are extreme defenders of binary gender, and can be far more so than many cis people. If people want to play binary gender games, that's fine by me - but it can get ugly when they insist everybody has to play the game, and has to play it by their rules.
I get the impression that there are also (even more?) issues in the other direction (transgender against transsexuel). In the way of "Why do you need to transition, you should strike down the gender binary / ignore gender altogether / your transitioning is holding up the gender binary / sexist stuff."