cephalopod9 wrote:I think there's a huge lack of discussion about what consent is, and how it works. Also a lot of dangerous and hugely problematic messages in movies, ads, etc. about what's acceptable or "normal" in hooking-up.
Just look at all the scenarios where a man flirting with a woman involves buying alcohol for her. A cultural meme in which getting a someone drunk is seen as a valid strategy for having sex with them is a serious problem.
Rapists who know exactly what they're doing also benefit from confusion about the meaning of rape, and attacking that confusion will help to undermine their strategies for getting away with it.
I've always seen a man buying a woman alcohol (at least if we're talking buying a drink here) as a form of ritual gift giving as it were. I buy alcohol for my friends, both male and female, all the time. They also buy alcohol for me all the time, without any of us having the intention of getting the others drunk. I agree that seeing intoxication as a valid 'seduction strategy' is highly problematic though.