Confessional Shed - I'll keep a look-out

[I Am Raven]

... something important came up that I HAD to comment on.

I found this very amusing. Can't quite put my finger on why...

My confession: I NEVER asked a girl out of whom I didn't know for absolutely certain that she liked me. (How was I absolutely certain? We make out and then she tells me she really likes me. That's pretty much the moment I ask them out.)
Problem with that technique is that the situation has to be just perfect for that to happen.
So yeah... I am scared to man up and ask this Girl at work out. I sort of already did ("Would you like to go for a beer with me next week?") and she kind of didn't get it ("Oh yeah, I am going to this bar with <male coworker that has crush on female coworker> and <female coworker that doesn't have a crush on male coworker> you should come too!"). But today she told me <male coworker> didn't like it when he heard that Girl would be coming too. I am terribly confused as to what is expected of me, if anything. Can I still assume I am going for drinks with them? Should I ask her again "because she didn't get it", or should I "take the hint that she does not want to go for a drink with just me", or should I just ASK what's going on to clarify all this and prevent possible miscommuni- ah... Okay.
Thanks.

[roband]

Amusing? That's decent of you, it was meant as a joke

edit: WOWEE THIS IS POST 888 - NOW I CAN'T POST UNTIL SOMETHING IMPORTANT COMES UP

[Webzter]

Fess: When my post-count was 666 I didn't want to make any further posts outside of Forum Games for a very long time

If this is an apocalyptic reference, the mark of the beast may actually be 616

[roband]

Not my devil.

I can make up anything I like, right?

[Amie]

If this is an apocalyptic reference, the mark of the beast may actually be 616

No, man. Not according to William Blake. Sorry.

[icanus]

My first ever driving lesson begins in about half an hour. I'm terrified.

[emceng]

... something important came up that I HAD to comment on.

I found this very amusing. Can't quite put my finger on why...

My confession: I NEVER asked a girl out of whom I didn't know for absolutely certain that she liked me. (How was I absolutely certain? We make out and then she tells me she really likes me. That's pretty much the moment I ask them out.)
Problem with that technique is that the situation has to be just perfect for that to happen.
So yeah... I am scared to man up and ask this Girl at work out. I sort of already did ("Would you like to go for a beer with me next week?") and she kind of didn't get it ("Oh yeah, I am going to this bar with <male coworker that has crush on female coworker> and <female coworker that doesn't have a crush on male coworker> you should come too!"). But today she told me <male coworker> didn't like it when he heard that Girl would be coming too. I am terribly confused as to what is expected of me, if anything. Can I still assume I am going for drinks with them? Should I ask her again "because she didn't get it", or should I "take the hint that she does not want to go for a drink with just me", or should I just ASK what's going on to clarify all this and prevent possible miscommuni- ah... Okay.
Thanks.

My suggestion: Get drinks with the group, enjoy the evening. Flirt with said girl. At the end of the evening, say something more definitive - "I'd like to take you to dinner" or "This might be fun with just the two of us".

[Microscopic cog]

My first ever driving lesson begins in about half an hour. I'm terrified.

I felt the same, but it turned out to be great! I'm still nervous but it's a blast at the same time.

[icanus]

All turned out well - I didn't hit anything, and was slightly more relaxed by the end of it...

[I Am Raven]

My suggestion: Get drinks with the group, enjoy the evening. Flirt with said girl. At the end of the evening, say something more definitive - "I'd like to take you to dinner" or "This might be fun with just the two of us".

Something came up. A baker wanting to marry her and take her with him to Uganda, to be precise. She was pretty shook up. I offered her my cigarette and my coffee and comforted her. Then she had to get back to work. It all turned out alright, but I don't think it's a good idea to show my interest in her on that level right after such a thing.

[Amie]

This from my Facebook:
"I've always had a love-hate relationship with cricket. Growing up in Bombay, it was impossible to escape it. Sometimes, I hate that the city forced me into the paranoia and the hype. Not today. Today, I am grateful. Rahul Dravid is a player I've always watched more than anyone else and... as it all slowly sinks in... the knowledge that I won't ever get my childhood memories refreshed by him anymore, I am sadder than I thought I'd be."

He's played for India for 16 years. He's dedicated his entire life to making the country proud of his incomparable legacy. Now he needs to live for himself. I am privileged to have grown up in an era where Rahul Dravid batted for India. I just finished watching his retirement press conference and I am devastated... to say the least. I am happy, though, that he's made a great decision for himself.

[Apparently Anonymous]

These bouts of apathy sometimes have me thinking my mind isn't as healthy as I thought it was

[Eseell]

I feel uncomfortable being congratulated for accomplishing something that was very easy. My boss doesn't get how easy the task was because what I do is like magic to him.

[Menacing Spike]

I feel uncomfortable being congratulated for accomplishing something that was very easy. My boss doesn't get how easy the task was because what I do is like magic to him.

Much better than the reverse.

"While we are at it, could you just code up a forum on the website? Should be easy, right?"

[Chewbaccawacca]

Sometimes, when I'm all alone, I'll buy like 3 of those little "Donette" packages and eat them. ALL OF THEM.

[Annihilist]

I relate WAY too much to Eric Harris & Dylan Klebold.

I have a phobia of broken glass, since a time when I was drunk with people and I got incredibly suicidal and cut my arm with glass I threw at a wall. I freak out every time since. I also refuse to drink and I hate parties.

I hate myself.

[Cathy]

Don't hate yourself! You're pretty awesome.

I can't stand the smell of beer ever since I got

Spoiler:

raped when I was young

and people always try to get me to try beer anyways. It's icky. I don't like it and it makes me shiver and shake and it's not fun.

Drinking is overrated anyway, eff people.

[Annihilist]

Don't hate yourself! You're pretty awesome.

I can't stand the smell of beer ever since I got

Spoiler:

raped when I was young

and people always try to get me to try beer anyways. It's icky. I don't like it and it makes me shiver and shake and it's not fun.

Drinking is overrated anyway, eff people.

You don't know me, but thanks anyway.

Instead of spewing a whole lot of depressing shit I'm just going to agree with you on the drinking thing. I don't drink anymore, and it's good.

Remember: only do drugs and alcohol in a GOOD mood. Never in a bad mood.

[Giant Speck]

I feel uncomfortable being congratulated for accomplishing something that was very easy. My boss doesn't get how easy the task was because what I do is like magic to him.

I feel this way, too. In fact, this just happened the other day. My supervisor wouldn't shut up about how fast I could type, even though I personally do not think I can type that fast.

[I Am Raven]

I always crush on the most impossible girls:
1) Has a longterm relationship.
2) Considers herself a metal-chick.
3) Crazy.
4) Adultery is her middle name.
5) Dreamy beyond imagining.

All five are past crushes of mine. They're all extremely nice, I can talk to them, I enjoy their company, they're good-looking and whatnot, but there's always that one thing that makes it completely impossible for me to advance/date/consider a relationship with them.
I feel like a sad panda.
(Happy too, because I am crushing, which always makes me sort of happy/giddy.)

[Zarq]

Why is metal-chick a bad thing?

[I Am Raven]

Why is metal-chick a bad thing?

That is not the part that bothers me. In fact, it's something I like about her. It's the self-proclaimedness of it that greatly puts me off. I mean sure, be metal, be hardcore, be hippie, be classic, be hipster, but don't go attentionwhoring about it.

EDIT: I'm kind of a dick. Do I really discard people that easily? I guess so... But I don't want to be a dick! But her attentionwhoring in general puts me off, even though one on one she's really nice. It's probably something I'll have to accept. There is no one without drawbacks.

[SecondTalon]

I mean..

4) Adultery is her middle name.

... you sure she's not just poly? It's a thing. People do it. Some people are fine with it, some not. And it's fine if you're not, but if she is then.... well, being a dick about it isn't really cool.

Frankly, #1 is the only genuine problem I see. The rest are either you not explaining yourself well, or being a dick.

[bigglesworth]

Adultery is also a thing. And equating adulterers with poly people seems rather insulting, ST.

[SecondTalon]

Adultery is also a thing. And equating adulterers with poly people seems rather insulting, ST.

Hence my question. The way it and #1 are phrased leads me to believe that whomever #4 represents is not in a relationship and is not married, but instead has a history of appearing to primarily romance one person while at the same time still engaging in alternate romantic entanglements. How exactly that is defined would depend a lot on how #4 describes their current relationship status and how they discuss what they want and don't want out of a relationship with whomever they're currently romancing. If they go into such pairings or continue multiple pairings with everyone fully aware the others exist and being perfectly acceptable with it, then there's no problem. If #4 makes various promises of fidelity and does not uphold them, then there is a problem.

But whether or not that has come up in discussion and what the outcome of that discussion was is something that is usually not apparent from outside the relationship. And there are instances where a person agrees that they and their current romantic partner are free to see other people provided they maintain their relationship then ends it due to being unable to deal with the ramifications of that arrangement and later describing it as being cheated on when.. that wasn't the case at all. One partner was merely following the rules set forth in their earlier agreement.

... so yeah, hence my question.

[I Am Raven]

...various promises of fidelity and does not uphold them...

Yes. That.

And I'm kind of a dick. I'm working on it.

[Hyphe]

And I'm kind of a dick. I'm working on it.

Don't forget number 3 makes you kind of a dick too. I'm "crazy" and the general consensus seems to be that I'm awesome in spite of / because of being mentally ill. So there.


Ahem. In other news, I'm totally not wearing a bra. Mwahahahahahaa.

[I Am Raven]

And I'm kind of a dick. I'm working on it.

Don't forget number 3 makes you kind of a dick too. I'm "crazy" and the general consensus seems to be that I'm awesome in spite of / because of being mentally ill. So there.


Ahem. In other news, I'm totally not wearing a bra. Mwahahahahahaa.

Maybe I should've been more specific. She isn't (as far as I know) diagnosed with a certain "disorder", it was just that she started laughing at inappropriate moments, or just out of the blue, she made a habit of waking me up in the middle of the night just to ask if I was dreaming, and she sometimes threw water on my back while I was sleeping just to see how it fell off of my back. She was nice, and sweet, and we could talk about stuff, but she didn't listen to me when I asked her to stop waking me up in the middle of the night. At first I thought it was kind of cute, but after a couple of weeks it just got annoying.

I'm still kind of a dick though.

[Kewangji]

She was disrespectful and impulsive, then. That is not the same thing.

[Zarq]

Does she ever describe herself as 'random'?

[Torvaun]

Maybe I should've been more specific. She isn't (as far as I know) diagnosed with a certain "disorder", it was just that she started laughing at inappropriate moments, or just out of the blue, she made a habit of waking me up in the middle of the night just to ask if I was dreaming, and she sometimes threw water on my back while I was sleeping just to see how it fell off of my back. She was nice, and sweet, and we could talk about stuff, but she didn't listen to me when I asked her to stop waking me up in the middle of the night. At first I thought it was kind of cute, but after a couple of weeks it just got annoying.

I'm still kind of a dick though.

Sounds like manic episodes to me.

[I Am Raven]

Point is, I couldn't handle her.

Okay, so 1) just FB-chatted me saying that she was looking forward to seeing me again (we play in the same orchestra) and that "I didn't know half of how curious she was about me".
What?

[Zarq]

What does "curious" mean in that context?

[suffer-cait]

What does "curious" mean in that context?

wanting to learn about

[I Am Raven]

What does "curious" mean in that context?

wanting to learn about

I guess. I'm slightly confused though. Do I seem like a nice person she would like to hang out with, or does is she expressing romantic interest towards me(even though she is in a relationship)? I'm going to rule the second one out for now, because that complicates shit, and could lead to unnecessary awkwardness if that is not the case.

[suffer-cait]

i'd say she's flirting. just......contributing.

[Zarq]

Which doesn't really answer that much. Is she flirting because she's interested, or because she likes flirting?

Raven, could you post the exact Dutch sentence?

[Black Dynamite]

I confess I don't think Raven is a dick.

[suffer-cait]

i saw him as asking if she was flirting or simply being friendly. I believe she is just friendly.

[Zarq]

i saw him as asking if she was flirting or simply being friendly. I believe she is just friendly.

You just said she was flirting.