Dream wrote:I see you're talking about something no one else is. The kid isn't being told to not be gay, nor to be more white. He's being told (and supposedly only after other efforts have failed) to moderate his dress in acknowledgement of the dangers associated with wearing his preferred clothing. And yeah, if I'm paying for a multisensor, centrally controlled remotely monitored alarm system, and paying the regular charge to have it monitored, and regardless of that fact also remembering to keep lights on timers while I'm away from home, and closing curtains at night so people can't see valuables in my rooms, and installing and using heavy duty locks, I'd say that's a bigger ask than a kid not being able to wear a skirt 100% of all the time, but instead to wear pants during school hours.
NEITHER should be necessary. But that doesn't mean neither is a sensible course of action, either to take or to recommend to somebody else.
What he chooses to wear to school has no bearing on the other students' abilities to learn. It is his right to wear what he pleases. Because he attends a public school that does not have a uniform policy, he may wear whatever clothing is acceptable under the school's code of conduct, regardless of whether that makes him a target. You're right. Neither should be necessary. But by forcing them to be necessary by never pushing for change, their un-necessity will always be a cloud dream. If you don't teach kids that people who cross-dress are people too by taking away the cross-dresser's right to cross dress, then the kids' exposure to cross-dressers go down, and so does their tolerance. School is there to socialize the youth, and part of that means exposure to minority culture.
M.C. wrote:The school had been trying to help Young, who transferred there last year, Yarrell said, by recommending that he "tone down" his accessories.
He doesn't need to come to school in a sports uniform, there are a lot of gender neutral clothing out there. If you wear clothing that doesn't make you stand out, other kids might not be so afraid to hang around with you. No one wants to be friends with the "freak", even if that label is unjustified. If he is in a very large high school, then taking away a major point of difference makes him blend in a little better.
What I stated above applies to this as well. Unless schools start accepting the "freak" then the "freak" will never become normalized in society and will continue to be shunned.