Carlington wrote:Spoiler:-BUT (and here comes the potential homophobia and transmisogyny), I am particularly disinterested in/repulsed by the idea of having sex with a person who has a penis. Which, given everything else I've said here...doesn't seem like it should be a thing. Like, I'd make out with a person regardless of gender or genitalia, and I don't feel sexual attraction really, but I specifically wouldn't have sex with a bepenised person? So maybe I'm just straight and questioning too hard? I don't know. I don't really want to be doing homophobic/transphobic/transmisogynistic things (or any bigoted things) so maybe it would be better to just ignore the rest of it and be like "Nah I'm just straight no biggie" (but I also don't really think that's right)
The issues that tend to cause actual grrr on my end is when, assuming one's had SRS and everything, basically someone is definitely physically attracted to someone, but then when they learn about their medical history (SRS, hormones, maybe having had a beard, etc) they lose all attraction. That's something I think is less okay and definitely something I'd consider shallow. It's also not something that would apply to other physical characteristics: nobody cares if someone had bad acne during puberty if they're physically attracted to them now, but when it comes to trans people this is used as an easy excuse to make people feel okay about their internalized transphobia (feeling icky about the idea of the person they're dating 'having been a [gender assigned at birth])'.
So, to sum it all up. I definitely would be okay with you using the word straight to describe yourself. Being straight doesn't mean you have to be attracted to everyone you meet who happens to be in that category. I mean, think about any other silly thing. Let's say you don't like people wearing purple shirts (why you'd feel that way is irrelevant, though I'd be kind of surprised since purple is clearly the Best Color), that doesn't mean the straight label no longer applies because there are people of the opposite sex who happen to wear those wonderful magnificent shirts.
I hope this is helpful.