Bruce wrote:I take offence at the concept that asexuality is limited to females. There is nothing wrong with your partner.
I meant no offense, and I honestly appreciate that you've said this. It's very comforting to have others agree that my partner is different, but in no way 'broken'.
EmptySet wrote:One way of dealing with it might be to encourage your partner to fulfill their needs through one-night stands or "friends with benefits", but that seems likely to cause problems of its own...
This is something we've discussed, and he's actually suggested an open relationship in order for me to meet my needs, but this is something that I, personally, cannot do. For me, the purpose of a sexual relationship is to experience the emotional connection with the person you love, not merely to feed the physical need, although I've felt that at times as well. Basically, my personal definition of a sexual relationship makes it impossible for me to share it with anyone other than the person I've chosen as my monogamous partner.
And my partner does oblige me when asked, but admittedly it sort of kills the moment when I have to ask for it every time and he's taking a while to get up to speed because he's only there to make me happy and has no interest for himself.
I understand that a lot of people might encourage going our separate ways at this point, but we're extremely happy in all other aspects of our relationship. We're having a child together and we're even working on planning a wedding (we'd been planning the wedding since before we found out I was pregnant
). I think we've both decided that we'd rather find a way to make things work rather than giving up our relationship because we're honestly and truly happy with each other.
I just really
want to get laid more than once every 5 months.